Being A Mom
Being A Mom
I have recently shifted to a new place leaving behind the comfort of my home state, Mom, Dad, in-laws, aunts, uncles, etc, etc. You get the drift. With all the attendant heartache (or relief!), I have also left behind the comfort of a domestic help.
It’s a novel experience for me caring for my children all alone and all day. Before this, I always had people to cook and care for the child. So much for the advantages of working out! Working seems so very simple compared to this! You just need to take care of the target and the rest falls into place. Like a fat cheque at the end of the month! You come home at 8 in the evening, cuddle the child, before handing him over to be fed. In the meantime you catch the news and then some cartoon with the toddler.
Now look where I am. It seems my entire life is just planning the next meal and then ensuring that that meal goes where it's intended and not into the dustbin! Just when breakfast is over, lunch needs to be cooked. After running around feeding a cantankerous kid his lunch (it takes roughly around 2 hours, maybe…if one is lucky), its time to plan for the tea time snack and dinner. But I have been cheating on dinner, so far. I’ve been getting it mostly from the local deli. It’s another matter that the man behind the counter asked me yesterday, “no house cooking, ma’am? you work outside?” leaving my husband grinning and me …furious!
Moreover, it is not all cooking too. Clothes, dishes, they all need to be cleaned (only part that’s automated), hung, dried, folded et al. Wipe the table, put aside books, shoes, cds, plates… believe me keeping house is a never ending process. Just when I think I can put my feet up with a mug of tea, I find the apple juice has been spilled. While I wipe that clean, the kid has found a means to climb the TV unit, of course not before tearing the day’s papers to shreds and strewing the neatly folded clothes all over the carpet. And as I run mad clearing up, he manages to break a egg. Well, I hope, the baby will have to have a nap. I can catch a bit of breath, then. Maybe start a novel or, just maybe, if I am lucky, get in a blog. That is the hope I have been nourishing the past fortnight. And it still remains a wistful forlorn hope…for I go to sleep before the kid does!
It reminds me of the story of “Uncle ___ Hangs A Portrait” from Three Men in a Boat! I have never believed that being a home-maker is easy. I am being proved right many times over. Sshh…Don’t wake him. Its 12 AM and he is finally asleep!
All said and done, I don’t think I will trade all these for Office work ever again. Especially when my child whispers to me at night, Mama, please do not go to Office – ever!
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and I remember just walking around in an exhausted state for years. I had two children two years apart and if I wasn't running after a toddler, I was changing a diaper, etc. Now my "babies" are teenagers and it's still exhausting but in a different way...I know this might sound like a cliche but really enjoy your time with your child at this age. It does go by too quickly and pretty soon they are gone more than they are home!! BTW, caffeine is your friend!!!
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Thanks Mia for the comment. I do use the caffeine a lot! Its the thing that keeps me alive. Yes they grow up fast too. My elder child is ten years and already feels he knows everything there is to know in life!
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But, as you've found out, it's also the most rewarding.
I used to work full time, in a daycare center as a preschool teacher even, outside my home, and go to college full time to boot. With all that, I still had a social life, staying out to whatever time I wished with friends.
Then I got married, quit my job and college to move out where my husband was stationed, in the army. And, found myself pregnant in just a few short months (by a man doctors claimed would never be able to sire children).
I've been a full time mommy ever since. The most time I've ever spent away from one of my children, in 6 years, is when I had to go to the hospital to give birth to my youngest, leaving the eldest with her grandparents.
Being mom is a job that is 24 hours a day. You don't get to go home after work and relax for a bit, you are on call 24 hours a day, and you're lucky to get any sleep at all! The kids can make you crazy, your social life is non-existent, there is always another mess, people who do work outside their homes feel that you're "not actually working". It's never-ending, and there is little to no genuine appreciation and gratitude.
But, the reward is more then you'd ever hoped for. Your children love you spending so much time with them, and your bond with them grows exponentially. And, that makes it all far more then worth it.
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and its a job that needs to be done. but honestly we moms do it more for ourselves!
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those who can stay home with their children. What wouldn't I give to be able to do that. Yes they are exhausting and you work literally non-stop but when they smile at you - all your exhaustion melts away and you can't wait to come home to see that smile again.
yes staying at home is an opportunity not every
girl gets. the best trade off is stay at home after getting financially secure while the kids are still small!
too much to ask, isn't it?
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But, look at all the fun you and the kids are having. And, when they grow up, all the grand memories you'll have, but, most important you will know you did your very best, and, because you were there for them, as, they grow they will always remember their great mom.
Your piece displays in its words the energy of "a mom taking care of the kids." I felt your energy!
Did I just hear something spill again??
Just focus on the now.
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mammamia, Yes, needless to say, Being a Mom is the most difficult job on earth.
As each year passes and my son gets older, I tell myself, it will be better next year! Ten years have passed, the situation remains the same. Only the problems keep changing. Every year brings on a set of "new" problems to face!
Very nice post. Being a mom is an often underrated job. It's the hardest one there is!
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I have none of my own but three step-children and can relate... the ongoing chaos of taking care of three youngsters (only part time) - two are now teenagers and the youngest is pre-teen sure is enough to keep anybody on their toes, never mind a toddler whew. Hats off to a great article.
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Wonderful article! I worked full-time away from home for awhile and I hated it. I always felt guilty to leave my little ones at daycare.
I now am back home. I watch them, love on them, yell at them, get frustrated with them, write, clean, recruitment from home as my job, clean, clean, clean, and cook and get so tired I can't think!!! : ) I LOVE being home!!
It is THE hardest job you can have and it never stops. I keep telling them to quit growing up. They just laugh at me and say, "Oh Mom we love you!" It just melts my heart.
They are now 6 and 7 years old and growing up too quickly. I want to capture this time in thoughts, print and heart for always and forever....
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Good experience i should say...
So, u should be proud to be mom...!!!!!
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being a stay at home mom is much harder than working outside the house. I've done both. but I much prefer working at home, and being at home with my kids all day, even if it is harder. it's much more fulfilling. sometimes i actually cried i was so upset about having to go to work and leave my babies.
i make less money now, but i'm much happier.
really great article.
for the lovely comment. we women get the hardest job, always;-)!!!
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In that movie, Robin Williams' character was a robot who--rather than accepting any thanks for the multitude of tasks he accomplished for his designer, for his owners or for humanity/robotity in general--answered any appreciation with, "It is an honor to serve."
While it's nice to be appreciated, the purest form of appreciation is use (with 'credit' properly applied as 'credit' is due).
Maybe you sometimes feel 'under-thanked' ... boo-frickin`-hoo, right? You have to remember that you are *THE* mommy; sure there are other 'mommies,' but (until the kid decides different) You are THE ONLY ONE!
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"While it's nice to be appreciated, the purest form of appreciation is use" - how very true...yes, just being the "only" mom is great!
i am now an older stay-at-home mom and have learned to make time for myself
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