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Being A Mom

posted July 4, 2008 - 9:26pm
Being A Mom

I have recently shifted to a new place leaving behind the comfort of my home state, Mom, Dad, in-laws, aunts, uncles, etc, etc. You get the drift. With all the attendant heartache (or relief!), I have also left behind the comfort of a domestic help.

It’s a novel experience for me caring for my children all alone and all day. Before this, I always had people to cook and care for the child. So much for the advantages of working out! Working seems so very simple compared to this! You just need to take care of the target and the rest falls into place. Like a fat cheque at the end of the month! You come home at 8 in the evening, cuddle the child, before handing him over to be fed. In the meantime you catch the news and then some cartoon with the toddler.

Now look where I am. It seems my entire life is just planning the next meal and then ensuring that that meal goes where it's intended and not into the dustbin! Just when breakfast is over, lunch needs to be cooked. After running around feeding a cantankerous kid his lunch (it takes roughly around 2 hours, maybe…if one is lucky), its time to plan for the tea time snack and dinner. But I have been cheating on dinner, so far. I’ve been getting it mostly from the local deli. It’s another matter that the man behind the counter asked me yesterday, “no house cooking, ma’am? you work outside?” leaving my husband grinning and me …furious!

Moreover, it is not all cooking too. Clothes, dishes, they all need to be cleaned (only part that’s automated), hung, dried, folded et al. Wipe the table, put aside books, shoes, cds, plates… believe me keeping house is a never ending process. Just when I think I can put my feet up with a mug of tea, I find the apple juice has been spilled. While I wipe that clean, the kid has found a means to climb the TV unit, of course not before tearing the day’s papers to shreds and strewing the neatly folded clothes all over the carpet. And as I run mad clearing up, he manages to break a egg. Well, I hope, the baby will have to have a nap. I can catch a bit of breath, then. Maybe start a novel or, just maybe, if I am lucky, get in a blog. That is the hope I have been nourishing the past fortnight. And it still remains a wistful forlorn hope…for I go to sleep before the kid does!

It reminds me of the story of “Uncle ___ Hangs A Portrait” from Three Men in a Boat! I have never believed that being a home-maker is easy. I am being proved right many times over. Sshh…Don’t wake him. Its 12 AM and he is finally asleep!

All said and done, I don’t think I will trade all these for Office work ever again. Especially when my child whispers to me at night, Mama, please do not go to Office – ever!

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Lol - true

"While it's nice to be appreciated, the purest form of appreciation is use" - how very true...yes, just being the "only" mom is great! i am now an older stay-at-home mom and have learned to make time for myself http://www.xomba.com/beijiong_olympics_competition_schedule http://www.xomba.com/beijing_olympics_athletics_schedule http://www.xomba.com/michael_phelps_facebook http://www.xomba.com/mens_football_schedule_beijing_olympics

@mamamia07,princess: But You Have to Remember "BICENTENNIAL MAN"

In that movie, Robin Williams' character was a robot who--rather than accepting any thanks for the multitude of tasks he accomplished for his designer, for his owners or for humanity/robotity in general--answered any appreciation with, "It is an honor to serve." While it's nice to be appreciated, the purest form of appreciation is use (with 'credit' properly applied as 'credit' is due). Maybe you sometimes feel 'under-thanked' ... boo-frickin`-hoo, right? You have to remember that you are *THE* mommy; sure there are other 'mommies,' but (until the kid decides different) You are THE ONLY ONE! ... signed, Uncle MythMan---Big Fan of stars like Tori Spelling, Fussin`, Vanessa Montagne & Lena Li--Xombie Plan

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being a stay at home mom is

being a stay at home mom is much harder than working outside the house. I've done both. but I much prefer working at home, and being at home with my kids all day, even if it is harder. it's much more fulfilling. sometimes i actually cried i was so upset about having to go to work and leave my babies. i make less money now, but i'm much happier. really great article.

thanks for the comments all

Am in xomba after a small gap and find all these nice comments. thanks so much for appreciating...btw, admin, i guess this should be somewhere in the top page, isnt it - unless the rules have changed in the last fortnight :-) Read How I Have Made $2000 from Xomba http://www.xomba.com/thumbs_up_to_xomba_2_k_story Check Out My Profile Here Click here to read my articles

Nice thoughts...

Lokesh Good experience i should say... So, u should be proud to be mom...!!!!!

Lokesh

Being a Mom ~ Oh Love ~~

Wonderful article! I worked full-time away from home for awhile and I hated it. I always felt guilty to leave my little ones at daycare. I now am back home. I watch them, love on them, yell at them, get frustrated with them, write, clean, recruitment from home as my job, clean, clean, clean, and cook and get so tired I can't think!!! : ) I LOVE being home!! It is THE hardest job you can have and it never stops. I keep telling them to quit growing up. They just laugh at me and say, "Oh Mom we love you!" It just melts my heart. They are now 6 and 7 years old and growing up too quickly. I want to capture this time in thoughts, print and heart for always and forever.... Make money writing ~ http://www.ehow.com/make-money-online.aspx?tcid=jun08_ref606

Hi

hats off to you for being a great mom :)

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I have none of my own but three step-children and can relate... the ongoing chaos of taking care of three youngsters (only part time) - two are now teenagers and the youngest is pre-teen sure is enough to keep anybody on their toes, never mind a toddler whew. Hats off to a great article. Get Paid $$$ to Write! Join Xomba! www.xomba.com/referral/7778f814 Check out your weekly Tarotscope http://spiritlightsinsights.blogspot.com

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