Before you can determine how to save a failing relationship, regardless of whether you are dating or married, you have to know what the problem is. Couples frequently make the mistake of trying to repair a relationship before they identify the problems. So, the first thing you must do is figure out what went wrong. Following are the 5 primary steps if you are trying to save a failing relationship.

1. Sit down together and begin by honestly asking yourselves about the problems each of you face. Make a list and write down each point. Do not point out who's right and who's wrong, just write down each item on the list.

2. Calmly (without arguing), discuss each point that each of you have written down. This is frequently where some of the problems can get overblown. But, if both of you keep your cool, you can solve 90% of your problems here. If a problem seems like a difficult one, move on to the next item on the list. As each problem is resolved, cross it off the list.

3. A small percentage of the problems you’ve written down may be more difficult to solve. In order to get over this hurdle, you must compromise. This means that BOTH parties must be willing to give and take. If just one participant is doing all of the giving (or taking), it won’t work.

4. After working through step 3, ask yourselves how or why you’ve lost touch with each other? What can each of you do to make life better for each other. Why do you no longer feel that you are a part of your partner's life, and what can be done to correct that situation?

5. Now, sit down together and make a list of items that you are going to work on improve your relationship to make things better. Write down things that each of you WILL do as well as things that you WON”T do.

Trying to save a failing relationship is not easy, it is something both of you have to work at. Once you get most of the sticky issues worked out, bring some of the romantic spark back into your lives. If you truly want to save a failing relationship, re-introduce sex into your lives like it was when you first got together. For great lovemaking tips and romantic ideas to save a failing relationship, go toLove Tips!