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Do Pretty Girls have it easier??

posted September 17, 2006 - 12:41am
Do Pretty Girls have it easier??

Just my opinion but I think they do. If I went into a job interview with another woman and we had the same qualifications and she was prettier she would get the job. In fact I would argue that she could be less qualified! I also think that people tend to bend the rules for pretty girls. I've been overweight since high school and have found that people react totally different to thin pretty women then the average sized person and they treat fat people like crap! The less attractive people have to be smart, be funny, and acquire a good attitude, while attractive girls never really develop a personality and pass through life with little challenges (other then the universal challenges of life that no one can avoid). At times it's really unfare.

For instants, I am a journalism major - journalism is not a face job - plenty of ugly men write. Yet when I go to interviews or do internships new reporters are young, trendy, and beautiful like right from the pages of "The Devil Wears Prada." The only ugly women are the ones who've been around for ages but you know they couldn't get hired anywhere else now. I know that first impressions are a fact of life and that people are going to judge you with in seconds without needing to know your name, but there is something wrong with thinking that to be successful in a career and in life that I need to lose 30 lbs, get the latest hair style and a trendy new wardrobe. Liposuction, Paul Mitchell Sallon and Vera Wang are not covered by my upteen million dollars worth of student loans which makes me wonder what I'm paying for. Oh yeah, that's right! A Degree. Because Bachelor Degrees are the hottest accessories along with Gucci Boots to go with that image you sell to your potential employer.

So back to my point I slightly veared away from: Pretty Girls have it easier.

----Sue

Author: Sue Stone
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In my experience, the better

Chris Crow - Wed, 2007-31-10 7:03 pm
In my experience, the better qualified person tends to get the job. I'm sure it happens that a person will hire someone less qualified if they are better looking, but in that instance there are some ulterior motives going on. If I was hiring someone to work for me, I would want the person to be the best person interviewing for the job--not the prettiest girl, especially if she was less qualified. It's unfortunate and maybe not always true, but I think people tend to think that better looking women aren't as hard of workers as less attractive women. Plus, if a man hires a pretty girl, everyone else in the company is going to make fun of him and accuse him (even just jokingly) of trying to get a date out of it. And if she turns out to be a bad employee, that guy's a sucker. Also, here's another thing, if it's a woman doing the hiring, do you think she wants to hire a girl who's prettier than her? She is definitely going to go for the less attractive woman! I truly believe that if it's a legitimate job and you are well-qualified (and it's not in Hollywood) you have just as much chance,if not a better chance, of getting the job. What you need to do, especially in a field like journalism, is concentrate on becoming as good as you can at your craft. And of course trying to make as many contacts as possible, which is important in any field. End of the day, you can't control what other people are going to do. You can only control what you do. So, decrease the variables, and do excellent work. Always remember this: you will always be more conscious of your appearance than anyone else. We are our biggest enemies when is comes to self-esteem. However you feel inside will broadcast itself in how you act and communicate with others. If you feel like you look good, then you will feel good about yourself. Success in anything will follow. It's a cycle If a company is predisposed to give the more attractive person the job, then do you really want to work for them? In a word, no. In two words, fuck no.

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i don't want this to turn

Tina25 - Wed, 2007-31-10 5:55 pm
i don't want this to turn into some kind of an argument but it truly does take people to be in someone else's shoes to understand their life. Its very easy to just judge. Its unfortunate that society is so obsessed with looks and sometimes thats all that matters.. But getting the "pretty girl attention" doesn't necessarily make anyone happier. Maybe the first few time your flattered but you konw human nature, the effect doesn't stay. LIfe is much harder than just getting compliments and wearing makeup . Theres is way too many aspects of life and being pretty doesn't make u prone to it. Seriously. and for "fat girls" to fall into this trap and feel like they are worth any less is contributing just as much to this societies problem. Just fuck all of it..because beauty fades but the mind never does. please try to understand that. It you want people to value and respect u . u need to start doing it to urself first. i wz pretty chubby growing up and heard about it all the time, but i always believed that i had more to offer than that and once u have that attitude people around you start to belive u too ... wen i lost the weight i did get more compliment but it didn't make my life any better ..its not some dawm secret to happiness im just sayin grass is always greener on the other side

poor me, indeed!

stwenty8s - Wed, 2006-29-11 12:30 am
Alright, so being considered "hot" is a lot more fun than "not." I could argue this one till my fingertips bled, but it would really be nothing more than some sort of tired ego trip. Most times I enjoy the positive attention, other times I'm lying. I'll still always wish for friendships with more meaning, but I guess that one is all on me. If you want friends, prove yourself friendly and all that good shit.

stwenty8s

Poor Pretty Polly

Sue Stone - Tue, 2006-28-11 1:29 pm
I can see that this is becoming a real "Poor pretty me!" fest. Let me lay it out for you. I have a friend who is very big weight wise - no i actually have three friends that are huge and it makes them not so attractive. Well, while pretty Polly is sobbing over boys drooling over her and not treating her like a Princess all the time, my three friends have to get a guy massivly drunk to be able to touch them. One of my friends was in love with this guy and he didn't even know she existed. She got him drunk and forced a blow job on him - and BRAGGEED about it later! She was so happy he had let her. Now that is fucking sad, I know, but it is the life of a fat girl. EVERYTHING is harder. My other friend fell in love her her guy friend (Which is what fat girls are always being "The Friend") and she thought he liked her too. She was devistated when he told her he was just using herr as a friends with benefits. I know that pretty girls can get screwed over by guys too, the difference is that fat girls never get teh guy - ever. while pretty girls get tons of guys and later bitch about it, homely girls are getting desperate and lowering their standards to get a date! I used to be 210 pounds but I got fed up with beng the "friend" and I have currantly lost 40 pounds. My friends have too many emotional issues they have to barrel through befire they can lose that kind of weight. Since I lost that weight the way people treat me has changed. Guys talk to me instead of ignore me, I got the internship this time that last year I was turned down for, and I get compliments all the time. Let's just say that choosing between pretty and fat, I will never take the horrible and depressing loneliness and self deprivation of the latter. I also won't be taking the easier life of pretty for granted. As for those who bitch and moan over their luck of being born thin and georgeous....what's stopping you from putting on 50 pounds and avoiding the attention of men all together? well maybe not all attention, they will call you from time to time for a booty call. Aint that the life? --Sue

agreed

Chapman15 - Tue, 2006-28-11 4:33 am
I have a friend that has this problem... She is definately a "hot" girl in her twenties, and she seems to meet all the jackasses of the world... Why you may ask? Because everyone's nice to her! She ends up trusting everyone she meets, which hasn't worked out for her incredibly well... I've known her for ten years and she gets screwed over due to not being able to differentiate genuine people and phoney people... I'm just glad I'm not a chick!

I definitely understand your

stwenty8s - Fri, 2006-24-11 11:30 pm
I definitely understand your point here... Of course, there's always another side to the story. Silly as it may sound, being "pretty" can really suck too. Other women feel threatened by your attractive qualities, and being glared at for no apparent reason does get old quite fast. You may get a lot of attention from men, but really, most of it is completely unwanted and inappropriate, and you always wonder who actually cares and who just keeps you around for something nice to look at. Others are too intimidated to initiate any sort of conversation. Finding and keeping REAL friends is entirely frustrating and, at times, depressing. Ah what do I know... Life is strange and terrible no matter who you are.

stwenty8s

Interesting - I guess there

damebugg11 - Mon, 2006-18-9 3:24 am
Interesting - I guess there is a plus and a minue to just about everything.

Hair experience

Sue Stone - Sun, 2006-17-9 11:43 am
I feel ya. I died my hair black once just to see if i got treated different and people treated me ALOT more seriously. It was the start of a new quarter at school and my classmates gave me a lot more credibility then they did when I had blond hair. I found it interesting but then poeple started mistakingme for a Goth (cus I have such fair skin!) so I had to die it back. HA HA. ---Sue

What bugs me is how people

damebugg11 - Sun, 2006-17-9 7:21 am
What bugs me is how people will assume so much just based on your looks or build but, that is just how people are. I am a natural blonde and personally I get really tired of being labeled a brainless twit.This is what I tell men that speak to me as if I have one brain cell - I tell them to go right ahead and assume that I am stupid -because given time -we will see just who is truly stupid and who isn't. lol I love the look on a guys face when I tell them that, you can just see their wheels clicking and wishing they had kept their mouth shut.lol

a different perspective...nice

Sue Stone - Sun, 2006-17-9 3:05 am
Wow, cool. That's totally awesome, I love hearing about strong women. I was being very stereotypical - of course not all attractive women lack personality. I was just thinking about MTV's Laguna Beach for a moment and how Christi or LC or whatever her name is, is famous for no apparent talent and she gets to work for Teen Vogue and how easy she's had it for just being pretty. I never thought about the other side either. It reminds me of my friend Eva. She has a really big chest and guys treat her like she's suppose to be a playmate or something and she's the furthest thing from it! She has a great sence of humor about it though. From the outside it looks like the LCs and Mischas are having all the fun. --Sue

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