Do you pay your family for babysitting? Why an I being criticize?


Do you pay your family for babysitting? Why an I being criticize?

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My hubby and I work 5 days a week. My mom and dad take care of my son from early in the morning to 11;00pm. When my mom use to babysit my brother's child she never charge him or his wife, so I automatically think that I shouldn't pay her or my dad.

Now, I don't pay her but every Saturday I take her and my dad out to eat to a restaurant or they come over to my house and I cook for them. When I go to Costco, I buy toilet paper, soap, food etc and I take it to them.

Plus my baby takes his formula, gerber food, pampers, wipes and money just in case he runs out of something, there is money to buy it.

My problem is, my brother is getting jealous because my mom wants to have the baby there all the time and she doesn't complain at all, in the other hand she no longer wants to take care of his kids. my mom saids, that they are big and now they eat more and she spends too much money on them. my brother always asks her if I pay her, of course I don't so he starts complaining.

Should I start paying them to take care of my baby? My mom volunteer to take care of him (my hubby's mom also wants to take care of him)my mom nearly kick me out to work after a month of giving birth, because she wanted to be with the baby, (she had cancer and going through chemo, when I told her that I was pregnant and felt in love with the baby even before he was born)

What do you think that I should do? All I want is to shut my brothers yap



user-icon Submitted by mackie on Tue, 2008-04-08 11:41


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XHellcatX's picture

hhmmm

Submitted by XHellcatX on Tue, 2008-04-08 12:52.

When it comes to family, money is always a sticky issue but here's my p.o.v ;)

First of all, are your parents retired? I'm assuming they are.
If so, and if they only have a government pension, then cash could be tight and the extra moolah could be handy for them.
However, from experience, parents will be very reluctant to ask for/take money from their kids.

Plus your momma has a good point about older kids eating more - they're also more difficult to control than babies and maybe your mother doesn't want to be chasing after wee kids at her age.

The fact that you buy them supplies, leave baby things with them and take them out should cover it, I would have thought. And it seems like the issue comes from your brother rather than your parents. Maybe speaking to him would be a good idea.

Hope it all works out!

Celanith's picture

I babysit for my grandkids

Submitted by Celanith on Tue, 2008-04-15 18:41.

Celanith
I watch my daughters 5 kids often 3-5 days a week and some nights. I at times watch my sons kids too. The age range is from 3-12. My daughter and son both buy me groceries for the kids and for my husband and I because our income is small and we don't have enough to buy food and other things. My daughter also helps me with things I am not physically able to do and so does my son. So we have a good working trade off. I don't get paid but I get compensated and I love watching the kids and teaching them things. Cuddling, rocking, singing and homeschooling them.