Love Shows

Being happy and healthy is noticeable; and not with the act people portray as being happy, but aren't really. Those brief smiles and hellos that are shallow and to the surface can lift our spirits up for a little while. Real happiness comes from healing the past, and being mentally stable enough to put the left foot forward, and then the right foot. Walking a straight path of stability and accomplishment in ones life pattern and goals.

Children know way more than we tend to give them credit for. They intuitively know when something is wrong even if we say all is well. They know if they are loved or not. If they know they are not liked or if they feel they are not loved they will behave in a manner fitten for misfortune. Due to their feelings and environmental circumstances. As a parent we are responsible for our own happiness and the welfare of our children. By being happy, understanding, sympathetic of ideas, needs, and wants will make all the difference in that child's life.

I Love You / I Care

If you don't love yourself than how can you really love anyone else? You must care about yourself enough to love your own self in order to begin from square one to love someone else. Mental illness can cause distortions of feelings and ideas of what is what, or how things truly are.
If you carry wounds from a misfortunate childhood or from a bitter marriage and need those ideas and thoughts healed.

From the circumstances you went through than talk to a loved one or close friend. In addition, there are wonderful self help books out there that will assist in the healing of emotions process. Furthermore, if the issues require intervention from a professional source then consider seeing a therapist, counselor or psychiatrist.

You want to begin on the correct path again for another try. Life is work and in order to be mentally stable, loving, and truly supportive without being co-dependent than we need to be mentally fit, with healthy ideas and thoughts.

If you can look in the mirror at yourself and say "I love you" and really mean it than you are on the right track of healthy emotions but if you have any mixed feelings about it or can't stand to look at yourself than how can you be a good parent? If you have issues with yourself then whom ever is around you is just a mirror of how you really feel about yourself.

The Healthy Family

Sane with mentally and spiritually balanced parents will produce the chances of the offspring to be the same way if not better. We always want our children to have more and do better if we truly love and care about them. How to act and live will reflect on what kind of person that end up being when they get older.

If you have done the very best you could do than your off spring should have potential to accomplish their hearts desire without all the emotional misfortunes. Unless something happens outside of the family structure that influences negative traits in the child. All you can do is hope for the best and teach by example. Even more, by being well protective parents and showing lots of healthy love, encouragement, and stability will produce children that will be more out to become leading role models in society.

To be a good influence on your child parents need to be free from any of these symptoms: depression, mental illness, extreme frustration in behavior or outlandish character flaws, addictive behavior. Suffer from alcoholism, drug addiction, obsessive compulsive disorder, workaholism, rageholism, compulsive spending, or eating disorders. To be good parents it is important to be mature, self sufficient, mentally stable, good self image.

Note: Single parents can do this as well. Bill Clinton was from a single parent household and became a president. He still remains at a high status level. With only minor flaws to consider.

We want to make sure we teach are children values, principles and ethics of proper behavior. And what choices they make today could effect their future. Children need to see the light of cause and effect in order to reduce unnecessary misfortunate circumstances that are brought on by poor choices. To many people live very troubled lives because they continue to make all the wrong decisions. Proper guidance will make all the difference.

Cooking / Nutrition

If we eat right and our children see how we are eating they will follow by example. It isn't the do as I say thing but the actions of what you do will speak loud, and clear to your children, grand children and great grandchildren. Because the practices and ethical principles will be passed down through the generations.

By setting an example today you will make a difference. Things you can do to make a difference: Read labels, speak of what is healthy and what is not. Buy organic, and choose to buy foods that are healthy instead of all the junk foods. Like the soda pops that fill up peoples kitchens.

Tip: If there is a serving plate of sliced up fruits, and vegetables in the refrigerator the kids will be more out to reach for it, especially if you are doing the same. Unless there is junk food to grab. So you want to limit buying that stuff. If you are buying and eating a majority of fruits and vegetables daily your taste buds will change. And the desire for raw natural foods, and healthy drinks will increase the craving and desire for those items.

Communication & Independence

Be there for your children when they need you, and talk with compassion to them. Instead of the old way of doing things, like talking at children. Instead listen, and hear them out, and if they are asking for your advice than give them your opinion on the circumstances but let them be free to decide and make their own choices in areas where it wouldn't hurt to let them be themselves, and decide.

Encourage independence starting at an early age and when appropriate. Let them have the independence to stand up for themselves or to go fetch the ball in the park when it's safe enough to do so. A little here and there of letting them be their selves and decide can be very healthy and teach them to think for themselves instead of always expecting someone else to hold the answers.

Role Model

Our actions count and make all the difference in our children's lives. Children never really go by what we say only by what we do. If we say don't smoke but yet we are smoking they don't pay any mind to the words we speak. Instead it is what we are doing that counts and holds weight. They are not stupid and often times will follow in our footsteps for good or for bad.

Activities

If we enjoy physical activities the chances are high that they will value them as well. If we aren't active than they probably won't appreciate, or learn to enjoy being physically involved in recreational performance. If we set boundaries for our own behavior and stick with constructive activities; the influence of our actions alone will teach the child / children proper behavior and will help them with making their own future decisions with choices, and setting up boundaries and limitation.
It will educate them to stay away from negative influences by our own actions in what we decide to do with our free time.

Decisions

We all have choices, and if we decide on reckless behavior with our decisions our children learn the misfortune of that behavior as well. The opposite of that is if we choose to think out plans, and set goals teaches responsibility that can influence a lifetime of setting good examples to live by. And for making the right decisions for a good life.