A while back when my daughter and son in law had to move in with us for a few weeks and my son was already living with is and his two kids were here every other weekend. I found myself doing more and more work with little help. It seemed I barely got things, picked up, cleaned up and put away before it was undone behind me. So I had a family conference and laid down some ground rules.

1. If you sleep on it, Make it up
2. If you wear it, Hang it up
3. If you drop it, Pick it up
4. If you cook or eat from it, Wash it up
5. If you make a mess, clean it up
6. If you open it, close it.
7. If you use it all, replace it
8. If you borrow it, bring it back
9. If it rings answer it
10. If it cries, love it

If you don't do these things
You abuse it, you lose it. MOM

After that my house hold chores were more evenly divided and we got along better.