You never find them while you're hunting for them.

Of course, never say 'never'; but your mate usually hasn't been refined into a 'soulmate' until `e's there with you  while you're 'searching your soul.' 

Of course (being a weak Christian), I look to the Bible. Genesis 2 relates (basically) that God saw that 'it was not good for the man to be alone' and so broght the animals to him. No I'm not condoning that kind of lovin`, and neither does the Bible; rather I'm remembering that Adam didn't know anything was wrong with being alone, that he simply went about his business (which was--reportedly--'naming the animals' ... basically, 'doing whatever he could with whatever he was given').

Eve was 'created' in Adam's sleep (she came like a theif in the night to spoil & destroy? :-P) He didn't do anything extra to find her; he was however very grateful for her ... so grateful he chose to disobey God with her and die with her rather than spend an eternity living after she were executed.