This is another topic that most of us often have to deal with. Abuse and abuse, it's a popular topic in today's falling standard world. Your spouse will often be the one that you have to run away from. Isn't it ironic? The one person that you trust one day might be the person that you have to run away from. I have to say that if they're abusive, chances are you will be better off without them because they won't change that much in the long run either. The thing with abusive people is that they can't help themselves most of the time and they don't want to get help or change either. Maybe one day after some major tragic even in their life then they'll change but until then they'll be the bad guy and you have to move on for good. You can read for yourself numerous abuse stories out there and most of them do not involved the perpetrators changing into a better person. No, that is not the case. Most often time, you will end up with more abuse if you stick around. There has been some real life stories where women would end up near death if they wait around. The thing with abusers is that they will get worse not better.

If you forecast your future and ask yourself about the outcome of your marriage, you will then see if it's something worth sticking around. I think that for most cases you are better off moving on to someone who doesn't abuse you. It all started out as small and then it becomes a bruised eye and then a broken back. The abuser would apologizes and then do it again. Have you heard of this before? I personally don't think there is much future with an abuser. There is a saying and that is " horses remember the old road." It means that the abuser will tend to repeat themselves. If you're in an abusive relationship just know that it's not your fault and you didn't do anything wrong. It's usually the abuser that is having interpersonal problems. It's up to you if you want to report them or not but you will be required to state who they are when you report them to the police. You can always get help with the battered women shelter. They do have shelter for battered women who need a place to live until things calm down. You can always seek counseling to get out of your mental distress. You probably can benefit from counseling.

If you're in an abusive relationship, the only time that you would continue with the relationship is that the abuser would change. However, do you think that they will change? Do you think that they will continue with their ways? The best solution to any kind of abuse problem is to remove yourself from the target and don't be a victim. How do you do this? You can move out or move back home with your family. If you're not living in the same house with the abuser then how could they abuse you, you should remove yourself from the target. Staying with the abuser will only give them more chance to abuse you. If you don't have the money or resources then you can contact the law enforcement for help, they will put you in a shelter home for battered women and you can stay there until you get your things together. You should not give the abuser a chance to escalate the abuse by trying to argue or defend yourself either. The more you try to defend yourself the more they will try to conquer you. It's a psychological illness with these abusers and you don't need to get involved with their problems. You should let a professional deal with it.