Evaluate the reasons for the separation. Be extremely clear with your spouse as to why you believe a separation is necessary to save your marriage  If you’re not certain the separation will help ytour marriage  then it may be better to stay and try and work things out with your spouse. However, if you truly believe that a separation will help save your marriage, then you should definitely go for it. However, keep in mind that  your plan may backfire and may actually have a detrimental effect on your relationship. However, you may have no other option.

Be open and receptive to separate to save your marriage.  Just because you and your spouse have decided to separate  for a time, doesn’t mean that your relationship is doomed forever. In fact, many marriages are revived after time away. Just keep the separation into perspective and discuss what the separation means to the two of you. For instance, will you both be allowed to date other people? Will you remain monogamous during the separation? Will you seek  counseling during the separation? Will you date each other often? Will you and your spouse remain physically involved? Will you continue to do things as a family? 

Develop a plan of action and timeline. Before you even move out of the house, you must figure out just how long you plan on being apart from your spouse. If you plan on being separated for a short period of time, like less than 6 months, it may make more sense to stay with friends or family. If you plan on being separated for a longer time period, it may be a good idea to get a separate apartment. However, you should keep in mind that if either of you set up permanent residence somewhere; your spouse is likely to think the separation is permanent. Either way, you must develop a plan of action and timeline for being apart and stick to your plan as closely as possible.

Get marriage counseling. Since the whole point of separating is to save your marriage,  you should do everything in your power to make your marraige work.  This includes getting marital counseling from a counselor that is versed in helping couples heal their marriages.

Stay in contact with your spouse. Although you’re temporarily separated, make sure that you remain in contact with  your spouse. In fact, it is strongly suggested that the two of you visit and date regularly. When you do, make it a real date. Go over there to chat and openly communicate. Do what you can to bridge the gap between the two of you.

In conclusion, just remember that a separation isn't always a prelude to divorce. In fact, many couples successfully separate  in order to save their marriage. . By combining  your separation with marriage counseling, some time apart, and hard work and effort, a separation may just reveal why you fell in love in the first place and can reignite the flame that seems to have been temporarily extinguished. Good luck!