I'm assuming that you grew up with the same stereotypes around you that I was subjected to. Real men don't cry. Real men are not soft or gentle. Real men don't show emotion or vulnerability. Stuff like that. I don't know where that Neanderthal, troglodyte type of thinking originated, but I guarantee you they had some deep-seated problems and had no idea what a real man is. Whatever the origin, those ideas of a real man were dead wrong.