Women fall into the trap every time. What trap is that you say? The one that has us chasing a man trying to get his attention when we should be smart enough to realize when the guy in question is not interested. We make ourselves miserable. We end up looking like fools and we have all done it at least once. So here is a little guide to determining whether or not your interest is interested in YOU!

1. While it’s true that most guys love it when the girl makes the first move, it should follow that the guy, if interested, will make the next move. If he does not, he’s not interested!
2. If you call a guy and he doesn’t call you back, HE’S NOT INTERESTED! This statement is true even if you have had a previous inclination that he might be interested because he used to call you and speak to you, but if he stops making and returning your calls, just stop pushing it. He’s bowing out silently and can’t just come out and say “Hey, I’m no longer into you”. When a guy decides he isn’t in to you, he is unable to tell you face to face for fear of confrontation. Guys hate nagging girls and girls that cry so they avoid you. Girls, gracefully walk away and don’t keep banging your head against a brick wall trying to get some kind of answer that might make sense to you. There will not be an answer that will satisfy you or appease your feelings.
3. Rules one and two apply even to online relationships for those of you who use Match.com, MySpace, etc. If a guy let’s one week go by without checking in with you (after previously showing interest), then give him one more week to get with you (but don’t keep sending him messages). He knows where to find you and will do so if he wants to. If two weeks go by and no obituary appears telling you he died, then he’s NOT INTERESTED in continuing the relationship.
4. If a guy is talking to/dating other women besides yourself, he’s not into you! He’s just playing the numbers game so he’ll always have a date! This is a guy who doesn’t care who you are, only if you’re there at his convenience. Stop being convenient and respect yourself more!
5. If a guy treats you like a booty call and only shows up at night, unannounced and drunk, or calls you at 2:00 a.m. and wants to come over…..guess what chicas? HE’S NOT INTERESTED IN YOU! In this case, there is only one thing he is interested in. Don’t sell yourselves cheap sisters.

If women want more out of a relationship than to be convenient, they have to start recognizing when someone is treating them with less care, consideration, and respect than they deserve. State your expectations from the beginning and if the guy in question cannot live up to that, then find another who can and will. Don’t make yourself miserably unhappy by trying to figure out why some guy doesn’t find you enthralling enough to spend all his time with you. Believe me, I’ve been there. I have beat myself up wondering why I wasn’t pretty enough, smart enough, funny enough or whatever enough to keep some idiot’s attention. Trust me when I tell you, you have done nothing wrong and you do not fall short of some imaginary mark. The guy just isn’t the one for you and you shouldn’t waste time chasing Mr. Wrong when you could be out there meeting Mr. Right!