Since I'm female myself and I see things from a girl's point of view, I decided to just put a few things out there for the ladies. In light of recent events occuring in my relationship due to a girl who "just won't let go," here are some tips that might save some of you wonderful women from heartache and headache in the future when "How could I have been so STUPID" syndrome hits you! :D

If it's crystal clear that a guy isn't interested in you, whether or not he comes right out and screams on a roof top to the city below "I DON'T LIKE YOU IN THAT WAY", get a CLUE! Actions speak louder than words and there are ways to read a person without having them come right out and say it to your face (or usually behind your back to someone who they KNOW will allow the news to get back to you after it has been spread all over town, mind you.) Have some self respect! I'm sick and tired of hearing about girls acting this way, especially when these girls are some of my own close friends, people I know are way too smart to sink so low for a guy who doesn't know how to treat them right. I'm not talking about having crushes, etc. I mean girls who go out of their way to act as if someone is THEIRS and he isn't! Creating drama in their lives. Acting "stink" when they see them with another girl. Guess what? He's not yours and being obsessive doesn't change anything. In fact, it usually makes the situation WORSE! RESTRAINING ORDER MUCH?!

If a guy treats you like crap and suddenly one day, he sweet talks you and later on that night, "hits it and runs," and then the next day, you are being treated lower than a dog in the streets, sad to say, it's your own fault for spreading your legs to someone you know isn't into you. Sex doesn't change ANYTHING. I have the fact that I'm a virgin THROWN IN MY FACE as if there is a mystery to sex that I just POSSIBLY couldn't comprehend. No, there are some things you don't have to experience to have enough common sense to say "Ok, that isn't a good situation to be in." Trust me. Sex won't change a THING. IT WON'T!!! The way to a man's heart isn't through spread legs, believe it or not! You have no idea how many times I've had my shoulders wet with tears because "Oh, how could he do this to me?" Fool, he did it BECAUSE YOU LET HIM! Why do some of us allow ourselves to be used like this? I don't mean once. We all make mistakes and love can blind you and make you do things you look back on and either laugh at your own stupidity or sigh with disgust. But to continue to allow yourself to be treated like this OVER and OVER again? By the same PERSON? History repeats without CHANGE!

One more thing. You can't force someone to feel something that isn't there...and you can't stop someone from feeling something for someone else either. All of the tantrums in the world won't change the way you appear in his eyes. Do a self evaluation...seriously...try to take a look at yourself inside out and then the outside in, because sometimes those looking THROUGH the window have the clearest view of all. There is a thin line between loving someone and losing your self respect. It's so easilly crossed that sometimes we only realize it when something, usually the person "we love," causes us to stumble and look back in shock at how far we've gone over to the other side... It isn't worth it trying to live a lie.

Even if you succeed...what's the point of having someone on your arm who doesn't have you in their heart?
~*Janelle~*