According to the Today Show, and Baby Talk Magazines, older moms and younger moms do not see eye-to- eye. Young moms, under 35 think older mothers are selfish while the older moms find the mothers under 35 immature and irresponsible. Can’t we all get along?
Are older moms better than younger moms, or vice versa?

Women who give birth to children when they are young, have the benefit of youth and energy. They also have the benefit of having their own mother to guide them. Conceiving and giving birth very likely came easily. Because a younger mother or family may not yet be financially secure, it is likely that this child will be put in childcare at an early age. This is a debate within itself.

Women who give birth in their latter years have the benefit of being more financially stable, and emotionally mature. Conception at this age is much more difficult and likely to be costly. This child is likely to be more pampered, and mom will either have a nanny, or stay home with the child herself.

We all have our own reasons for having our kids when we do!

Personally, I had my children at 26 and 28. I did not have them earlier because I wanted to finish my education and find my direction in life before I had children. (My direction still changed). At the same time, I had been told that if I waited too long, I would have difficulty conceiving. The doctors were right. I was having reproductive problems by 30, followed by a hysterectomy at 33. We all have our reasons for having our children when we have them.

So what is what the attitude between these groups of moms?

I can understand why younger mothers get miffed at the older moms. They are a bit judgmental. Conversations at the playground include a lot of advice from women who are on their first child, when the much younger mom may very like be on their third. The nerve of them actually thinking they know what they are talking about! At the same time, the older mothers parenting advice from a woman who is obviously ten or more years younger, and my still be emotionally immature.

Lack of communication is the problem.

Instead of glaring at each other from the opposite sides of playground, perhaps these moms should get to know each other from a personal basis. The younger mom with the horde of children may teach the younger mother mom the art of making the kids self-sufficient. Older moms tend to dote on their kids quite a bit. Meanwhile the older mom may teach the younger mom the importance of enjoying and appreciating the children more. It’s not that younger moms do not appreciate their kids, but they did not go through as many trials and tribulations to have them.