My Experiences with eharmony part2

Ok, I'm finally back for Part 2

Communications on eharmony are very easy and in the beginning a little detached. After the "harm" has sent you your matches and you have decided that you are interested in one or more after reading all their stuff you can click the Start Communications buttons to get things rolling. Doing this takes you to the first round of questions.

Eharmony lets you pick 5 questions from a list to send to your mate. Most of these are pretty lame such as "What is your idea of being adventurous?". From here your match picks from the multiple choice answers. Once your match has answered all your lame-ass questions, they get to pick 5 to send to you. After you have answered their questions you proceed to the person's Gotta Haves/Can't Stands. Again this is pretty dull stuff i.e. Gotta have someone who is passionate, Can't stand someone who is racist - duh! Next is the 2nd round of questions. Here things get a little more interesting. Now you only pick three questions and you can write your own if you choose. Your match has to write out their answers so now you get a little more of the person's personality. With the 2nd round done now you proceed to that doctor guy's warning, basically he tells you to not be stupid and don't get conned i.e. Meet in a public place during the day, watch out for someone who is too romantic and watch for pseudo doctors who run websites that claim to match you with others based on 29 factors. The next step is the Holy Grail of eharmony - Open Communication. Eharmony sets it up so you can email each other thru their website - yea! From there it is up to you.

Personally I have made it thru maze only once. Why? A variety of reasons:

1. The woman is a troll who I would have no interest in dating what-so-ever. eharmony tells you appearance does matter but not to base too much on it. Yeah right - I'm not dating the Stay-Puft Marshmallow Woman. Close Match.

2. The woman has not posted any pictures. There is a reason why some women don't post their pictures and it isn’t because they don't want you blinded by their beauty - see number 1. Close Match.

3. The woman lives 800 miles away from me. eharmony asks you how far your match can be from you i.e. 30 min, 1hr, etc. I do not know how they calculate their distances but, Valrico, Fl is not under an hour away from New Port Richey, Fl - is more like two hours if your lucky. Close Match.

4. The woman never responds to your communication. This happens alot! Either they don't check their accounts or they don't like you and figure you'll close them out eventually. Close Match.

5. The woman closes me out. Smack-O! The reasons for me being closed have run the gamut. Usually it the all-too-specific "other" that they give as a reason (you’re supposed to pick a reason why you are closing out someone) but sometimes it is the "physical distance is too far". Once in awhile it is "I'm pursuing another relationship" - well then close your f-ing account you dumbass.

6. I realize thru the question period that I am dealing with a genuine retard. One woman told me "have a good day with your daughter". I have a son and a daughter - so should I lock my son in the closet for the day? Not only that I never told her that I was with them that day - retard. Obviously she was caring on more than one conversation and confused me with someone else. Close Match.

Of course, throughout the communications portion you can close a match out for any reason even during Open Communication.

eharmony does offer an option called "Fast Track" where you can skip the b.s. questions and get right to the Open Communication. I tried this once and the woman promptly quit responding so that didn't work for me.

eharmony also offer a thing called "Secure Call” where if you want to talk to someone but don't want to give out your telephone number they will provide something for you. Never used it.

For the guys, I found out through my one open communication that most of the women on eharmony wait for the men to start the communication. So yes, you are the Hunter, they are the Gathers. Also, it is good if you mention something from their profile when respond to their 2nd round questions or during open communication.

I went thru about 250 matches in a month's period and only developed one relationship. Even that one doesn't seemed that interested - we have talked for a couple of weeks but still haven't met - Different schedules, hurt back, etc. (I can feel the wind blowing me off).

Well that is my experiences - I have decided not to extend my membership. Back to the blind dates. Good luck to those that try!