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My Son Wants A Cell Phone. Should I Give Him One?

posted November 16, 2008 - 1:40pm
My Son Wants A Cell Phone. Should I Give Him One?

My son wants a cell phone. Should I give him one?

My son is ten years old and of late he has been pestering me to get him a cell phone. He wanted the one I use and said I had better change to a new slick model. Since that was way too funny, he dropped the idea. Now he wants the slightly older Nokia Model I keep as a stand – by. His arguments interspersed with undeniable logic literally leave me gasping, with horror and shock. Horror, at his determination to wheedle a phone out of me at any cost and shock, that he has grown up so much! Sample them.

He needs a phone because he might get lost. The city has recently had a spate of kidnappings. To make him more aware I made him read the articles in newspapers and gave him a long lesson of safe behavior. He goes to a tutorial and basketball after school hours a few days a week. He goes chaperoned of course. But he tells me if the Driver shows up late, he can ring me up immediately and inform me. If his Basketball gets cancelled, I can arrange to get him from school without delay. Apparently, all his classmates have perfect arrangements with their parents or have hand phones, pagers, transmitters or maybe a tie-up with the school admin too complicated for me to use! These are not his best arguments by far. Our condo lift has got stuck recently once or twice. Apparently having a cell phone would make it easier for him to get in touch with us when he gets stuck in the lift! I think he thinks of these while sleeping! When I argue that he has already lost 3 watches this year and the phone won’t last long in his hands, he tells me his friend has lost three phones and still has got a phone. This friend is two years older and uses public transport to school – if I try to point that, the argument takes an entirely new direction – his friend knows driving and driving and the car keys are the next on my son’s list!

My list of arguments is long and he has an answer to all. The only way I have got my way so far has been by bullying.

He will lose the phone – He wont, he will be careful!
Phone will affect his tender brain – It affects our brains too
He doesn’t need a phone – He does of course, badly
All his trousers / school dress pockets are torn – I can repair them
The shorts he goes out to play in do not have pockets – I can customize them to carry a phone
He doesn’t need one – He does, badly
He is way too young – What do I mean by that?
I cannot afford it – That’s the reason he wants the old model
HE DOESN’T NEED A PHONE, HE IS TOO YOUNG – uh puhleeeze

I really cannot fathom when he graduated from playing games on my mobile to needing a phone as a status symbol (uh-huh). And I honestly don’t know how long the bullying will work. Any ideas? When should a child start using a mobile phone?



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Just my thoughts!

I am 63 years old and have never owned a cell phone.  I have no intentions of ever owning one.  I genuinely hate them.  I only use the home phone when it can't be avoided, and will use my wife's cell in an emergency, but that is all.

I have heard reports lately that the radiation they give off may cause cancer, and prolonged use will definitely interfere with sleep.

My son bought his son one when he was 11 years old.  The mom took it away from him and used all the minutes off it herself.  My son and his mom are divorced.  Luckily my son was smart enough to buy prepaid minutes, so that he couldn't go wild with the phone.  If you decide to get your son one, that is what I reccomend.  Tell him that he doesn't need many minutes and limit him to that numuber each month.  If he should lose it, you won't have lost a large amount of money on a plan that way.

Just my thoughts!

Johnny Yuma

cell phone health effects being suppressed

The adverse health effects of cell phones is the monster in the closet, as far as I’m concerned. Although scientific studies have allegedly found that prolonged use of cell phones will not cause brain tumors or other cancers, don’t believe ‘em. I predict that in ten or twenty years’ time there’ll be an explosion of brain tumors, leukemias and other cancers that cell phone manufacturers will, of course, deny has anything to do with their devices. And the younger the cell phone user, the more potentially dangerous the cell phone. These corporate-funded scientists are close kin to the bunch who recently claimed that vitamins C and E are practically useless and a waste of money but statin drugs, which have a list of terrible side effects a mile long, should be popped by everyone because a recent study supposedly found them so useful (and Big Pharma ends up making a substantial chunk of change off them). I have a friend who was taking the statin drug Lipitor and ended up in the hospital for major surgery followed by months of convalescence because of leg muscle damage from that drug that prevented her from walking without aid. The moral is, if there’s big bucks to be made, corporate clones, even scientists, will lie through their teeth to make it, so think about your son’s future health before you hand him that phone. And I can’t help adding as an animal advocate that using nonhuman animals to test devices and drugs meant for humans is just plain bad science, besides being unethical.

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Thanks Free C4J

For your comments. Yes its easy to "need" a phone! Join XOMBA, Write, Make Money! My profile Latest football

Thanks Xhellcat

for your comment - you yourself seem mature enough. yes my son's arguments have always been logical since he has been 3 years. he persuades, throws tantrums, gives reasons, never takes offence till he gets his way - he kinds of erodes away steadily all defenses - without giving up! but i will have to be firm on this matter till i judge he needs the phone! Great responses at this forum! Join XOMBA, Write, Make Money! My profile Latest football

To Phone or Not to Phone That is the question

Quite the dilemma you are facing. I will be too all too soon I am afraid. It is great that your son is working hard on his debate skills. If you really don't want him to have a phone, then I would just flat out say no. You can not have one until (insert when here). Make the cost the issue. Then make him earn it, and budget for it, and pay for it. Lastly, if you really want control of it, get him one of those models that happen to only have 4 buttons with each button attached to calling 1 number. That way, he will not have the freedom to call anyone, only the 4 numbers you have placed in the phone. I would also not get him one that can be added to your plan, but a pay as you go, that way it is easy and inexpensive to suspend the privilidge. Carrying a phone may be a popular satus symbol, but it is hardly necessary. I do believe we are the guinnea pigs for the phone companies when it comes to the emf brain exposure. But, it is so easy to "need one" I guess we will all find out the hardway, like with brain tumors. FreeCracker4Jack Would you like to earn money writing similar articles? CLICK ME! Read more great articles: http://www.xomba.com/xombyte/free_cracker_4_jack?p

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yep, get a pay-as-you-phone.

yep, get a pay-as-you-phone. If he runs out of credit gassing to his friends that's his problem. Oh yeah, and be careful of brain damage in 10-15 years. I only use mine as an answerphone. Money for your Thoughts - join now OWO-HP

Good article :)

Being not that long out of the Young Adult ranks myself, I find it difficult to choose a side in you and your son's argument. I think kids are growing up too quickly these days and having a mobile is one of those things that I think encourages it. In saying that, I reckon kids are less safe on the streets these days and instant contact with parents and/or the police is a very reassuring thing. The way your son is approaching this is quite mature. I was always taught never to pout or throw a tantrum - if I wanted something, I had to think rationally about it and put forward my arguments in a logical and diplomatic manner. In short, I found it easier and quicker if I had a reasonable discussion with my mum rather than letting my id take over. I remember watching time and time again as my friends tried to persuade their parents by slamming doors or yelling "I hate you!" or "That's not fair!". Considering your son is only 10, he's doing well in that department. Maybe he's shown you that he is mature enough to handle this responsibility. Also, he asked for your old phone rather than expect you to fork out monies for a brand new, state-of-the-art thing; - the lil dude seems wise to me ^_^

Thanks Jdhub

For the comments! He has started getting a small allowance - but i try to keep a track of how he spends it - he is still a child - he spends it mostly on chewing gum/chocolate :-) Join XOMBA, Write, Make Money! My profile Latest football

Right MJ

16 it is! your two cents is welcome - its for us oldies to stick together! Thanks for the comment. Join XOMBA, Write, Make Money! My profile Latest football

phone menace

I agree with you. they are way too obtrusive. i mostly use my cell when the children are out of home and I need to keep contact...rest of the time its misplaced! since i am an unadulterated xomba addict - i love it when the phone's in my handbag - and i have the excuse to callers that i didnt hear the phone! however the phones have made life easier - a lot easier. Thanks for the comment Veg. Join XOMBA, Write, Make Money! My profile Latest football

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