Are you overwhelmed with guilt from thoughts of cheating on your spouse. Don't give up there is hope for your marriage.

Shouldn't sex with your spouse be something you enjoy doing? Is sex with your spouse is so pleasurable? And if you enjoy having sex with your spouse for real, why do you cut them off for weeks or months when your upset. Either there is a contradiction somewhere or someone isn't being honest. I love going to amusement parks with a passion, and the last time I went it rained on my parade, so I got an umbrella and went anyway. I don't ever say the pizza man made me mad for showing up late I'm not eating pizza. I think some of the real problems may be the sex isn't that great. I may be the first person to ever say this I honestly believe this to be the case.

I use to think that every woman cut men off. Until my wife told me one day when she sees me walk in the room with my shirt off even when she's mad at me she wants to jump all over me. Through this experience I started to really think was anger the real reason for lack of intimacy. I have met some couples that argue all the time but love making love to each other. This made me wonder do some women really enjoy sex as much as they claim to enjoy it to be able to cut their spouse off for weeks or months. To me that's like going all summer with out eating ice cream. Or going all winter without a coat.

Another reason people cheat is because they don't talk about their fantasies or sex period with their partner. Do you feel awkward talking about sexual positions with your spouse? Why? Think about this for a moment. People don't talk about sex because its a private matter between husband and wife. Well then why is it some couples feel its so private that they can't talk about amongst each other. If I was a betting person I would bet that husbands and wives that are afraid to talk about sex with each other are the same ones, going weeks and days without sex because their partner is upset. This about this as well, when smokers get upset or stressed they smoke. I have never seen a die hard smoker say I'm upset I'm not smoking for a month. Now if smokers have a heard time going with a cigerrate that is not even real for a week, why is it we can go without our spouse that's 100% real for a month. If your afraid or it feels weird to talk about sex, your partner might be talking about sex with someone less shy. Don't be afraid to tell your partner what you don't like, and what you do like. Some peoples bedroom experience could be described as boring. People do the same position all the time, with no passion, and silence. How fun would a silent birthday party be. Now if a silent birthday party wouldn't be fun why would silent lovemaking be any different. Talk to each other don't be afraid to pull your woman's hair, rip off her clothes, or give her a spank. Your women might actually look at you with a new type of sparkle in her eye. Don't be afraid to talk dirty to your wife. Women don't be afraid to scratch your mans back or scream at the top of your lungs or put your arms around him.

Some couples don't talk about fantasies either. So some couples go off and fulfill their fantasy without their partner. Not every fantasy should be fulfilled. I am referring to fantasies between just you and your wife, and with just you and your wife. Even if your man wants you to put on a monkey suit and jump on the bed with bananas in your mouth if its reasonable you should do it for him. Men even if your woman wants you to put on a pirate suit and yell ship ahoy mates if its reasonable you should do it. What you want to accomplish is to leave no fantasy unfulfilled or change it to something you can do.