Relationship Tips

I've spent a lot of time in my life trying to understand where I have gone wrong in this life with relationships and marriage. I think I have hit upon the problem most partners have in this life.
I've been married twice and both times I had total disasters. I kept asking WHY?
So here goes my tips that I hope will help someone else out there in the big bad world.
When you meet someone and feel that instant attraction commonly know as lust. You want to get to know this person better. So dating is the first order of business. But the question is are you really in sync with the person you are dating or is each person giving to the other just so the dating goes well. This is where it all starts. Are both of you being honest, or just going along with the other. The answer to that question sets the mode you will eventually live with always.
How do you know if your both being honest? Researching each others past life before you meant each other is crucial, friends and family might say he never does that, or she didn't used to do that. Listening to people that already know your partner is key, as they have know your friend all their lives so remember to listen before you commit.
Then if you go ahead and marry whether you listen or not means your going to live in the life of dis honesty until it all falls apart. I personally didn't listen or observe family and friends of my ex's and that was my down fall. I thought it would be different for me. But in reality it was worse for me. For what I was doing was living a lie. So be very careful, because living a lie is like living hell, and you never really bond. It's just a false love. It has become a crisis in this world with people in and out of marriage and divorce. Lust can't last forever and when it's gone you have to ask yourself did I really love him or her or have I been living for lust? Think long and hard to avoid the pitfalls of lust, and dis-honesty, make sure you know who you love, and what they are really about. I hope this helps just one person not walk down the path the wrong way.