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Secrets? What Secrets?

posted September 26, 2006 - 2:09pm
Secrets? What Secrets?

I just wanted to say that, sometimes, there are reasons for secrets.

I could probably put out a book or a movie with that title, "Reasons for Secrets," but it would be a big disappointment: 0.5% Title/explanation-of-title, 99.5% blank-paper or -film.

Oh, I'm sure I could conceive some action-story to fill the physical blanks; but it would (if anything) reiterate the 0.5% that isn't 'blank.'

The reason for keeping most 'secrets' is that they don't matter to the people who don't know.

I know that sentence sorta denies itself, in that "secrets" are defined as such by the very fact that they are not told to those who believe they do matter (whether those questioned refuse to tell or replace the secrets with lies).

But if someone asks a question to which an official knows they need no answer, the official should (every good Catholic knows) answer, "I don't care," or "I don't care to answer that question."

If the interviewer continues on that question's tack (either insisting that the official should know, asking how it could be that the official doesn't care, or any other questions whose answers are the same 'secret'), then it's time for the official to ask, "What does it mean to 'the people'? No matter what answer I give there, the people should go on as before."

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Communication ... That's the Riddle, Isn't It?

MythMan - Sat, 2007-20-1 10:26 pm
The completion exists in the hearing, the comprehending and the repeating. You tell him, "I love you;" he hears and understands it to indicate your emotional feelings of deep attraction to him; going with the flow (that in the spiritual cord binding you to each other), and not fighting the feeling, he says, "I love you too." Until then--though you might have heard that 'I love you' is a good thing to say to accompany the feelings you felt--you don't know that 'just-so' is the way he would flow. Jude Speaks MythMan Attracts You Write ... Yayy!

What The Heck Does 'Unfaithful' Really Mean?

Ms Mad Hatter - Sat, 2007-20-1 4:01 am
The meaning of the word ‘unfaithful’ has a couple very different meanings. You can take it apart literally, un (not having) faith (trust, belief without proof) ful 1. not believing unless they witness the proof, or 2. disloyal or not fulfilling obligation. Most people like me understand the word as describing the ‘sexual partner’ that is not fulfilling an obligation to abstain from sexual activity with someone else when the ‘sexual partners’ already made that agreement (obligation to each other). If you want to use it in the context of what ‘God’, or anyone else expects from us, there are 2 ways you can perceive the word she uses that could simultaneously explain her intent. She wants you to be ‘loyal’ to her by obligating yourself to duties or rules that you both agree on, and she wants you to also to believe she is full of ‘good intentions’ even if you have no knowledge the ‘good intentions’ exist, besides what you have witnessed. It’s hard for me to turn my mind around to using the word as literally as ‘not having faith’, when I have only really heard it used to describe breaking the vow/pledge/commitment/obligation to be sexually monogamous to your partner. If the dictionary gives me 4 choices, can I pick which way I wanna understand the word? Cause that’s exactly what I feel like doing right now, you explain it from a different point of view, one I view to be so flexible in ways of interpretation.

Males Are the Gods

MythMan - Fri, 2007-19-1 11:01 pm
That subject-line might've been better off as some allusion you can piece together from my 'entire' archive here, but it is a very point I wanted to make. And I know I'm sounding 'gender-discriminatory' there, but--trust me--it's true. That distinction comes up because--when a friend of mine asked me if there's a word for "a cuckolded woman"--I started at the official definition of "cuckold:" "a man whose wife is unfaithful (or the transitive verb form 'to make a man have an unfaithful wife')." I looked around for a link to an antonym or further explanation of the etymology, but ended up haveing to find that through further research. That research showed that the word came from an Old French word that meant 'cuckoo (the bird)-done-wrong,' after the common practice of female cuckoos to frequently switch mates and/or lay their eggs in other hens' nests. That didn't seem to lead anywhere, so I went back to the first definition: 'a man whose wife is unfaithful.' "Unfaithful" is the operative word; I remembered something I was told in church when I was young---"God won't be faithful to you unless you're faithful to Him." Those words have probably started more-than-one Atheist-kick ... Take the sunrise---if you don't believe He's making the sunrise, then He isn't doing it (the sun still rises because it's programmed to; it's just you that believes or doesn't believe that somebody or nobody wrote the program ... am I freakin` ya out yet? :-B WOO-HOOO! lol) That's how we men work; if you don't believe we're checkin` out the hottie in the red dress, then we're not. And you ask us if we're checkin` her out, we'll tell you the truth. (Whatever answer comes out of our mouth is the truth ... unless you're unfaithful.) Write with Love ... That's me

Life Can Change Very Quickly

Ms Mad Hatter - Fri, 2007-19-1 6:57 pm
I think people should be entitled to at least know the secrets that affect their lives. I believe everyone is entitled to having the information required to make reasonable decisions in life. Anything else that is ‘believed to be unnecessary’ for people to “go on as before”, is for the curious cats to investigate on their own. Of course, if no action is shown as proof for the curious cat, then all they can do is make assumptions about what is on someone else’s mind. Even if actions are manifested, how can the curious cat know there is a connection between action and intent? If the wife is a curious cat and catches him staring at the ‘hottie in a red dress’, it shouldn’t matter because she shouldn’t react to her feelings about his staring? Maybe he’s looking at someone behind the hottie! These assumptions of the curious cat can become very life-altering if the curious cat decides to act on her assumptions and change their lives. Then the lesson is that it would be best not to investigate, or at least not to react to your assumptions before you really know fo sure.

Yet the Pertanence Stays the Same

MythMan - Tue, 2006-26-9 5:14 pm
True, but in both cases the answer won't change life much. (The cuckolded husband could take it as 'a hint' that either the relationship is over or he needs to improve noticeably, but only if he finds out.) Call Me J, MythMan J

Multifaceted, secrets be.

Antonia Dwells - Tue, 2006-26-9 3:26 pm
[in that "secrets" are defined as such by the very fact that they are not told to those who believe they do matter] That's just one part of what a secret can be. That is to say, not all secrets are those kinds of secrets (which have someone believing the secret matters). The other day, my friend was trying to catch my attention while I was busy writing. She eventually said: "Don't you want to know my secret?" My response was: "That's okay. You hang on to it." I was apparently the person who should have thought the secret mattered, but to me, it did not matter. And then there are the secrets we have that others do not know about. While out to dinner with your wife, you may have lusted in your mind about the hottie in the red dress; and because of this lusting, you may now feel that you "cheated" on your wife. It is a secret--and a guilty secret--you are keeping from your wife, but she is oblivious.

Antonia Dwells

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