Things to consider before marrying someone way older than you
posted September 8, 2006 - 12:25pmI suppose the answers to this question depend upon how big of an age difference we're talking about.
If your partner is just slightly older than you, or maybe even several years older, this should not be a big deal. However if we're talking about more than a decade older this could bring up some concerns.
Throughout history there has been noticeable age differences in some couples. In recent times, it seems more and more people are saying that age is just a number and that a difference in the age is not important. It might not be up to a point.
The important factors to consider are
Do you actually have enough in common to make the marriage work
Are you doing this just to get attention from your friends and relatives?
Is the older person receptive to new ideas or are they set in their ways
Is there a possibility of having and do you want children?
Is the older spouse going to be able to actively participate in raising a child or children
Is there enough insurance in case something would happen
are there any valid objections from family members to the marriage
Are the two of you sexually compatible, and if not, would you mind being just companions
Is the marriage based on true love, or is it money or compassion
If either of you have children, are the older partners children going to object to their Step parent perhaps being younger than them
Do you have the ability to stick the marriage out, even if the older person should develop some major health issues
are you prepared for people's reactions when they see you together, "is that your daughter?" or "your mother looks good for her age ". The truth is people's reactions cannot hide their true feelings. The decision of course is up to no one but the two of you.
Are you going to be able to provide for your family if the older spouse cannot

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