We men have it easy, when it comes to meeting and dating beautiful women, biologically.  On the evolutionary scale women were given the short end of the stick in that we men are visually stimulated, and any woman who's lost her youthful good looks, seems destined to a life of not being appreciated (even though that's not at all true).

Whereas we men are allowed the chance to meet, date, and win the hearts of beautiful women, sometimes based upon personality alone! 

To prove it, just stop into any mall, restaurant, club, or other social setting and look around.  At least half of the couples you see are comprised of an attractive woman and an average looking guy. (Or worse.  I've seen beautiful women with guys who had no money, a beer gut, and a comb-over.)

But even with the evolutionary scales tipped in our favor, we men can make some of the biggest dunder-headed mistakes when it comes to meeting beautiful women.  This seems to happen because most of the information we gather throughout our lives comes from either a) those who don't know what they're talking about in any way when it comes to beautiful women either, b)  Our Mothers who were telling us, as young boys, to "be nice"...which doesn't always serve us as men anymore, c) Those who might know what they're talking about...but they're talking to a guy...so gentle hints are just pointless because we can't catch a clue with a soccer net behind us, or d)  Women who are griping about the man in their lives and instead of us asking (and listening) we just assume they want the opposite. 

So, here in plain guy-talk is a small list of five mistakes men make with approaching women to date (You might want to bookmark this piece and come back to this piece frequently in order to digest these dating tips): 

Top Five Mistakes Men Make With Approaching Women to Date Number One 

We misunderstand what women mean by wanting a "Nice Guy." -That word, "nice," is probably one of the most mis-translated words between the sexes that has ever existed.  It's my belief that the word might possibly have two separate definitions.  One for men and one for women.  This one word could be a topic on it's own. 

We men take the word "nice" a bit too literally.  We seem to think that women mean "nice" in regards to being gentle, chronically sensitive, doing everything she says, and giving her the key to every room in the house of our minds.  Nothing could be further from the truth. 

In asking a random sampling of women what they find attractive in a man...you guessed it...they all said "I just want to meet a nice guy." 

That wasn't what I was hoping to learn, so, I asked them to please be a little more descriptive.  In 100% of the cases they described a guy who "has it together" and isn't afraid of being a confident man. 

Mind you they never once said that they were looking for a jerk.  Jerks bug them too.  When the subjects of "jerks" came up, some of the subjects went so far as to begin blushing, because of reminders of certain men in their lives. 

It seems the average jerks also "happen to" also carry those manly qualities that they so secretly desire:  Confidence, personality, and strength.  So, "nice" doesn't equate to a hyper-sensitive, namby-pamby wimp.  "Nice" means get your game together boy! 

Top Five Mistakes Men Make With Approaching Women to Date Number Two 

Men make the mistake of not taking the lead - Here's a simple little illustration:  A guy goes through all the trouble to look good, smell good, and be friendly and funny enough to get a girl's phone number.  After a couple of days he calls and they agree to meet somewhere for coffee. 

During coffee, they decide to meet again and they do.  When she asks where they're going he plays a game of  "I dunno.  Where do you wanna go?"  because he didn't go through the trouble of having a plan, so that she could just relax and enjoy herself, instead of having to sweat all of the details. 

Women (especially if they have kids) are the ones who bear so much of the burden already in life of getting so much done.  Jeez!  She was hoping to have fun and you're just dumping another decision on her! 

No wonder she doesn't return your call for a second date...and that's just one tiny little example in the grand scheme of things. 

Top Five Mistakes Men Make With Approaching Women to Date Number Three 

Men make the mistake of not thinking they're good enough for a beautiful woman - Oh.  This one is fun.  Most of the beautiful women I've ever met in my life are perfectly fine with being approached by men.  It's been happening to them all their lives. 

In fact, I'd bet it's safe to assume, that most women would really like to meet a nice man (see above translation) for a mutual, lifelong, love relationship. 

Instead, the majority of guys that even bother to approach her stutter and stammer like a mealy-mouthed goob just trying not to piss her off.  That bowing and scraping junk is sorta insulting to her.  Doncha think? 

Please lose that "approval-seeking" mentality before I come over there and get her phone number.  Really man.  You're embarrassing yourself and me.  She's a woman...not a trophy. 

It's time to take "the woman" off of your pedestal and put the family dog back where it belongs (at least the cat).

Top Five Mistakes Men Make With Approaching Women to Date Number Four

Fixating on one certain woman, who's just not interested, and wasting time - If you've blown it with a certain woman you're hard-pressed to ever develop any sort of attraction for yourself from her. 

I don't care what happens in the movies.  If she's not interested, or already taken, just move on. 

For those of you that are pining away, this very instant, for that secretary down the hall here's a suggestion that might help:  Instead of fixating on one particular woman, try to fixate instead, on one particular type of woman.  There's nothing wrong at all with knowing what you want in life. 

There's also nothing wrong with not blowing a potentially beautiful friendship just because she knows she'll never ever ever, ever sleep with you!  No amount of "logical" pleading and reasoning will help you either.  That's just annoying and could end up as a harassment charge to boot! 

As a matter-of-fact, if you've already blown it with a particular woman, make it a point to be the best friend to that gal that she could ever want!  Nothing gets the attention of another prospective woman like a guy who's having a great time with good friends.

One little caveat:  Your new friendship does not mean treating her any different than you would any other buddy.  Wouldn't even hurt to occasionally remind her, with tongue-in-cheek, that she's "already blown it.  Let's just be friends...okay?"

Top Five Mistakes Men Make With Approaching Women to Date Number Five 

Men refusing to learn what to do to improve the chances of meeting a good woman. - While there's lots of great information to learn from just asking women what they're looking for, and requesting clarification on what confuses you still, there's nothing like learning from another guy who's successful with women. 

Just lay it on the line.  Some guys don't realize what sorts of social geniuses they are.  Introduce yourself, tell them exactly what your goals are, and that you'd like to learn from them by observation if they don't mind.  Not only are you sure to learn a thing or two, but a stroke to the ego, is sometimes a great start to yet another good friendship. 

If you're as anti-social as I believe you are, since you're reading this article on meeting women, there are tons of material out there on the web, and in bookstores, about succeeding with women.  There's no shame in wanting to learn either. 

Have you ever just picked up an instrument and started playing?  No!  You must learn how first and practice non-stop!  Did you even start walking before you learned how?  Now that's a silly question. 

If you're looking to meet and attract the kind of women that you're wanting to there are things to be learned.  Anyone who thinks they can master the skill of meeting beautiful women without learning how first is seriously deluded.

I might even be back with more later.

Source:

Personal experience