Top Master-plans for Sex
By Boboye Onduku

The world’s rapid transformation has seen decline in values and distortion of purpose in almost all of God’s well-intentioned creations. The fatal diseases emergent from the harmful alteration of sex and sexuality have hardly deterred many from desiring sex-for-the-moment or sex-for-cravings. Divinity’s entire master plan for sex is all embracing and seeks to mutually satisfy all if the parameters are strictly adhered to. A perfect alliance and hence understanding would pave the way for true claims to a healthy and enjoyable sex life.

At the peak of pack of sex master-plans as entrenched by God is the place of a bisexual married two. This exclusively shelves all sexual intentions and experiences for the marriage institution. This absolutely negates and illegitimates any sex or sexual activities outside the marriage institution. In creation’s story of Genesis 4:1 we find this strategic positioning for sex.

And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived and bore Cain…

Here we find the first mention of sexual activity between the first two individuals, Adam and Eve. And this sets the tone for Cain’s own involvement in sex-in a bisexual marriage setting in Gen 4 verse 17. It is obvious that the word knew as translated from the Hebrew gives the environment of cohabitation, the modern day roomies, and roommates or having or sharing a joint household settings as evidenced in marriage. So what provisions were made for the unmarried? Self control, of course. Also, Adam was without doubts male and Eve, the life spring of all humans, was female. This would put into right perspective why homosexuality and masturbation should not be indulgences worth mentioning or even thought of. With their depraved and demeaning characteristics, homosexuality and masturbation go against this Divine outlay.

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The charge to man to be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth given to man in the book of Genesis 2 verse 28 was also fulfilled by the first act of sex by human beings in Genesis 4 verse 1b

…and she conceived and bore Cain and said I have gotten a man from the Lord

Thus, this forms the basis for the second layout for sex- fulfillment of the charge to man and woman to reproduce or produce offspring. This perception certainly does not set out to establish sex as an activity to be engaged in by couples purely for the purposes of reproduction and procreation. This is because of the many other purposes of sex as we would come to terms with at the end of this paper. This stance largely rubbishes and voids gay marriages which cannot fulfill this charge in its pure form. Child adoption and other evolved processes as artificial insemination and the likes cannot be substantiated as fulfillments of the charge of God to the unit to be fruitful, fertile or productive. In any case, they are measures resorted to when unfruitfulness in part or whole is a bane experienced by couples. And this is what gay marriages are rightly cued to always attain-unfruitfulness, since they strike out the place of a bi-sexual two and cannot reproduce after the unit’s kind.

The book of Genesis also lends us a third master plan for sex which is for the purposes of establishing or sealing the marriage covenant, and hence attaining genuine intimacy and perfect bonding. This we clearly see from the another charge to man in Genesis 2 verse 24

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall become one flesh

This is re-echoed in Matthew 19 verse 5 by Jesus with the word “twain” (meaning two) appearing between they and shall

…and they twain shall become one flesh.

It is this cleaving (i.e. clinging to) and or one-fleshing that all sexual activity sets to accomplish in every bi-sexual marriage locale. Strong and long lasting bonds and ties and true and genuine intimacy are guaranteed by sex in marriages patterned after the Divine order. That such marriage lasts up to 50years or more tells a great deal of the bonds of intimacy oiled by Divine sexual unions. This posture would put in right frame the inability of unmarried couples who engage in sex to severe their relationships even in the face of deep hurts and heartaches. You will also understand why the sex in this instance does not transform to strong ties or genuine intimacy as it is outside the boundaries of sex (marriage) as stipulated by the Divine. Stretching this further, whoredom or prostitution can also be rightly placed to be against this Divine plan for sex. This is because they form sexual relationships that seek to make provision for sex-for- the-moment and sex-for-sale. Apart from this, both professions trivialise and make a laughing stock of this plan by projecting sex as a lucrative venture that has little to do with intimacy and ties.

Also in the basket of prominent master-plans for sex is the one that outlines and insists on sexual satisfaction and contentment being sought and derived only from one’s spouse at all times. This plan is put down concisely by Solomon in Proverbs 15 verses 15, 18 and 19

Drink waters from thine own cistern and running waters out of thine own well
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love

The understanding and precise implementation of this master-plan provides the panacea for sexual vices such as adultery, fornication, incest, and even rape. This would mean that the married would stick to their spouses in all sexual matters while the unmarried would seek to apply self control until they are rightly positioned in marriage before making any sexual overtures.

Paul’s first letter to the church at Corinth in 1st Corinthians 7 verses 3-5 provide the launch pad for the next two foremost master plans for sexual relationships
Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: And likewise also the wife unto the husband

The wife had not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband has no power of his own body, but his wife
Defraud ye not one another except it be with consent for a time…

The first part bordering on making available kindness and goodwill (benevolence) to one’s spouse gives us a fourth master plan-absolute respect of spouses for each other regarding lawful sexual needs. These needs include paying the matrimonial debt, and conferring the conjugal duty (sex) to each other, mutually satisfying each other. This presses home the point that spouses belong to each other. And also that neither of them has any authority to refuse what the other demands nor needs in normal temperate relationships. The place of compromise, understanding and flexibility should be sought even in the run-up to obeying the injunction contained herein.

Embedded in the follow-up above is another important sex plan-sexual satisfaction of spouse. And that is why either of the spouses have no last word to refuse sexual demands in pleasant marriages. This would also set the stage for Solomon’s charge to husbands in Ecclesiastes 9 verse 9

Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life.

And you can bet a sexually satisfied husband would fan the embers of bliss in marriage to life. In putting into action this plan, spouses would be stuffing life out of the fatal pressures which infidelity brings on the marriage union. This plan contains the potential of a mutually satisfying sexual union if both partners go about it with sincerity and all the strength they can gather. And this is the plan that gives a leeway for a Divine inroad to oral sex and exploration of different positions of sex apart from the traditional man-on-top-woman-down position. It is important to note that spouses have been found to exploit this to make other unlawful and depraving demands. And this is where the basic aspects of sex have to be properly understood by spouses before sexual exploration

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