The character that Sandra Bullock portrays in the movie, The Secrets of the Ya Ya Sisterhood, sees her mother as the person who messed up her mind and her life. Well I can relate in a way to the movie but my life doesn't have a cool family club to join after things are mended with the mums. I on the otherhand get to spend my first Christmas EVER not speaking to my mother. OH, I mean with my mother not speaking to me. I can't understand if this is tough love or pure hate. Many people have their own theories of parenting or just being a human being for that matter. The thing that annoys me the most about the whole sharade is the fact that I am a 28 year old woman and I have been independent for 10 years now. Why does my mother feel that she needs to disown me because of my life choices. It makes me furious to see that I live in a total different world than my mom. I think the fact that she would rather not have anything to do with me than to tolerate my decision. All the things I have tolerated for her sake and she had to pull a drama card. I wonder if this decision was made on one of her many lazy drunken afternoons of the week. Or could it be her new not yet divorced beau she moved into my dead father's house. Or could it be the ex-husband boyfriend who still keeps all his things at her house even though she kicked him out but the new guy wants things out by New Years. Well funny thing all this could be totally different. Sad to say the new guy might already be out and in the middle of a divorce since you know he left his wife of twenty years to shack up with my MOm... I am so proud. But i tolerate all this and she is mad because I stick with the same man whos put me through hell in back but we are crazy about each other and we are growing up and realizing how important we are to each other. I don't understand it. Why would anyone want to be in a crazy womans life anyway I think to my self, this could be the begining to the best part of my life no more drunk judgemental racisit loose abusive mother in my life. I guess Mommy Dearist is gone and I need to be glad. Why is it the things that doesn't kill us only makes us stronger. Well I must be strong as an OX.