Today I was very disappointed by a person I believed friend. It's not that I expect something from friends, but I thought that at least she respected me enough to know that I prefer my junk than other's.

My family has raised me that it is better to wait to get something, rather than buying junk just to get the impression that you have what you want to, because then at the end you are still with empty-handed. In fact we have few things at home, but good and just what is necessary and indispensable. If we haven’t something, we wait to have enough money to buy things of quality.

This lady was here in Germany for only three years and this was the last months of permanence. I knew her, because she was looking for a piano teacher for her son, and in fact I gave lessons to the boy. When they moved here, they have completely furnished the house they had rented and bought "quality" furniture in German discounts.

Of course now this family has to give back an house so empty as they have found. Before this lady has tried to sell me her kitchen (I do not have really a kitchen, I admit, but we wait to make a very beautiful kitchen as I like: why should we buy a Kitchen and take stuff that I do not like? Basically I need to cook and I just do it!). Then, seeing no other possibility to sell the kitchen, one day she called me and said: dear, if you will, I’d like to give you the two sofas. They are new, leather and I also used just a little. It is a pity trashing on.

I thought: perhaps I can help her to empty the house and I’ve already refused the kitchen. I told: I take them. I had never seen these sofas and my grandmother always told me that if someone gives you something, you must say nothing about the gift and just say thank you. That's what I did.

It was unfair to say: yes, I take them as gift only after I’ve seen them. On the other side, I expected that she thought like me regarding gifts.
As present I mean only:

1) new things
2) integrates stuff
3) clean things
4) things that others can still use

Unfortunately I had seen that it is not so for everyone. Practical now I have to give these two sofas away (that are unusable).

If they needed help to move, they need just to say that!
My husband says that next time I should say: thank you very much, but we have not place at home. Where could I put them?

What would you have done at my place?