Ways to increase intimacy with your spouse

Married couples need to keep thier intimacy alive in marriage. Many people lack the sexual intimacy they once had in marriage. Restoring intimacy is a must in order keep the flame burning in marriage. When your intimacy level decreaces, its often a result of other underlying things let examine these things and come up with resolutions.

It is detrimental to you marriage that couples should go to bed together at the same time as much as possible. The more you you space yourself apart from each other the further distant you feel. Having a quickie isn't real intimacy. You should try to use after hours to talk about goals and plan your life. Just the fact that your talking to each other will get you in the mood. When you are always the first person in bed it really destroys intimacy. Men want women to be the first to initiate just as much as men initiate. When a man consistently initiates lovemaking and their spouse doesn't this slowly destroys intimacy. This lack of initimacy slowly wear a man down because as macho as we seem we want women to be the aggressor most of the time. If you watch allot of movies majority of the time its the women making the first move. So a man walks away with this desire playing in his head of a women making the first move. This is like a small fantasy men share. Just by initiating love more you can raise your intimacy to new heights. Men also need to go down on a women more often. So many times it seems men expect women to go down on them but men we need go down just as much. Intimacy probally gets pretty boring when a man just lays in bed waiting for their spouse to make the first move. Women want to feel a thick chest and muscalar arms on top of them. Women want men to take thier panties off. Women want men to tear their clothes as well every now and then. And women want men to go down on them often.

One way to get closer is to get guilt out. Even though you mare fear your spouses reaction in the long run it will benefit you. Something else you can is remove guilt from your mind by openening up with your partner. Having great intimacy is also about taking things slow not rushing. You can't be intimate getting quickies all the time you need to take it slow. When you take it slow you are communicating to each other how special the moment your sharing is. You are also saying If it takes all night to get you undressed that's fine with me. For you are to reach extasy exstacy during intimacy you shouldn't think about anything. You should think about bills, or problems while your making love. When you start getting intimate you shouldn't be thinking about what you are going to cook for dinner. When you get deep in intimacy your mind goes blank. Sometimes if you just hold each other beforehand your able to release allot of stress that could break intimacy. When was the last time you looked in your lovers eyes and felt yourself looking into thier soul. The eyes are the window to the soul. If looking into your spouses eyes is how you met why should you do this to create intimacy as well.

Have you ever wondered why sex after an argument is so good? Its because you get stuff off your chest you open up. Its hard to have explosive intimacy whith a guilty consciense. Passion is about love for each other. Its extremely hard to get to the passion with guilt standing in fron of it. Once you sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your spouse and get out those secrets you can share that explosive intimacy. When you hide secrets you destroy intimacy, especially guilt.
If you open yourself up to your spouse and share secrets your intimacy will increase as well. When you open yourself up you are literally releasing the shackles that bound up your intimacy. You need to have a forum where you can share anything without the other person getting mad. In this environment you can easily confess about looking at porn, or flirting with someone, or even thinking about having an affair. It has been said that its better to put a bandage on a scratch then alcohol on a deep cut. After you finish making love hold each other. Give your spouse soft kisses on the forehead and just talk about your love for each other.