It has been said that it is the Christian Principal's of sex that makes people lose interest in the religion. I think that it is true to a certain extent, but you can't water down the Gospel for the masses.

The Bible specifically states that you should only have sex in the context of marriage. Interestingly enough, it does not specify any of the ceremony of a marriage. I have heard it said that a marriage has to be done in a church and some say that a marriage in front of a judge isn't really a marriage, but the Bible never assigns any particular person the authority of marriage.

If you read the Bible carefully, the only valid reason for divorce is adultery. There is a lot of confusion about this. The Old Testament says that you can give a woman (specifically stated as a woman, but there is an implication this goes for the husband as well by the Bible's better treatment of women than contemporaries) a bill of divorcement for their uncleanness.

In the in between time until Jesus they allowed couples to get divorced on the basis of any uncleanness. Once a month any health woman of a certain age would have her period. The Bible uses the language of uncleanness to refer to this period, so they used this a pretext to a divorce. Of course this is not what the Bible was talking about, a period is a normal part of life. Jesus clarified this to be the uncleanness of unfaithfulness. He also said that there would have been no need for the divorce clause if our heart weren't hardened.

This is where some people say, look, the divorce is only because of our unhard heart, then there should be no divorce. Jesus also said that some would say that he was going to undo the Law, but that not the smallest part would become undone until the end of the age. Jesus said that he was the fulfilling of the Law, not the undoing of it. Therefore you can't have an interpretation where Jesus revokes an Old Testament Law, you can only say that he clarified it. Since it specifically states the Laws for divorce, there has to be a divorce clause in our understanding of the New Testament. Also, if no one had hard hearts, then there would be no adultery.

Once divorced, it doesn't seem like there is freedom to marry, because Jesus states that if one marries a divorced woman then you commit adultery. I know this would prevent a lot of divorces today. They are free to marry after their original husband dies. I think that there is also an implication in the Old Testament that once the other partner marries you are free to marry. If a one divorces and then marries and divorces a second person, then they can't get married to the first person again. It is called an abomination, the strongest word used against sin in the Bible. If you can't get remarried to the same person, then how cold you commit adultery against them?

If someone is reading this and they are divorced and have been remarried, don't panic. Be faithful to the marriage you are in, you have to go forward rather than back, and you should stay in your marriage. The whole issue is to stay married if at all possible, I know this is a hard road to bear in this modern world where the average person thinks they know better than God right and wrong. Think about the rules, the rules protect the children from being born out of wedlock or to a divorced family. This is the unmatched positive that no amount of sex can replace, it is the core of what we are missing in today's society.