What is your definition of change? The definition of change to me means analyzing what previous actions that were unsatisfactory to the beholder were done and taking the reactions that are the direct opposite of what was previously done to make a new course of action with new, positive results that satisfies the beholder.

Everyone talks about change directly or indirectly every single day. I know you have heard a friend say, "Man, when I get out of this relationship things are going to change," or "I don't know if I can take much more but something has got to give." These are all indications of a desire to change something in this person's life for the better. When you sit and think about it, I could be talking about your situation right now. I can surely relate because change is something I just recently embraced in my life for the better.

So if everyone talks about change, then why do so many people see very few results? Maybe the person feels that he/she has to exhaust their current situation out before being able to be in the position to make a new change wherever needed. It could be the person has made a change but continues to fall back into the same old habits. What people have to realize is that not everyone has the desire to make a change, especially when it comes to self-improvement. I guess it all boils down to the fear of being humiliated because most of the time where we need to make the change, our pride keeps is at work making sure that we stay true to our old self.

In my situation for example, one of my biggest problems was striking a conversation with a woman. Just recently I have made it my duty to think twice before I walk away from a potential friend and the only reason why I would do this is because I felt that no conversation at all was better than getting a negative attitude and a "no" when it came time to exchange information. All of this fear really had an affect on my pride because if I were not scared then I would not have thought twice about what she would say to me if I asked her on a date. Not only that, but the more conversations that I steered away from due to the fact I didn't want to be turned down, the harder it would be for me to make that change if I decided to do so.

Well, I have recently decided that I AM going to change. You see, the difference between the few that do and the many that do not is the very few respect the fact that failing a few times if necessary to make the change permanent may not be out of the question. No one is perfect and you cannot expect change over night. With this, you should understand that it is going to take some time to reverse your actions to your liking. With me, I do not know exactly when this change will become apart of my everyday life but I am willing to start today and I refuse to give up until I see the results I desire.

Now if you were to examine your situation would you consider yourself happy with what you put out for the public? If not, what is going to be your next change?