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When Did It Become OK To Discuss Our Private Lives Online?

posted June 6, 2008 - 7:18pm
When Did It Become OK To Discuss Our Private Lives Online?

Guess what? I don't want to know if you are gay or straight, whether or not you color your hair, how often you have sex, or even what brand of deodorant you use. And, unless you are unusually curious, I don't think you want to know those things about me, either.

Lately, there has been a big push to get young people (and older peope, too) to start social blogs on sites like U-Tube and MySpace. If you go to one of these sites, you will find that a large majority of the blogs that appear there revolve around the writer; what he or she likes, wants, does, etc.

We have all seen the misuse of some of these blogs--like the young girl who commited suicide because of the harrassment she received on such a site.

Other blogs are filled with pose after suggestive pose of half-naked young girls who are hoping to---what? Attract a boyfriend? Show others she has a sexy body? Or just do what she thinks everyone else is doing?

Another thing that bothers me about these blogs are the ones
where young (and not so young) people are encouraged to state their sexual orientation. While they may not be ashamed of it, have they given any thought to the fact that a future prospective employer, even though tolerant of different orientations, might prefer not to hire an employee who enjoys sharing what should be his or her private business with the whole world?

I know that some of you are thinking that if I don't like it, I can just not look at the blogs. True, but if the parents of young people all take that attitude, is there any limit to what their kids are going to be exposed to?

If you have kids, why not take a few minutes to sit down with them and look through a few of the thousands of available blogs, discussing what you see there with them. Point out some of the pitfalls there--maybe they will even discover some of their own.

Then, before you let them sign up for a blog of their own, set down a few rules.

1. If they are under 16, insist on a private blog where only close friends will have access.

2. Under no circumstances should personal information ever appear on their blog.

3. They should never post inappropiate material. (This includes sexy pictures, foul langage, hateful comments, and gossip.)

4. Insist on access to your child's blog--and use it frequently. (If they protest that it is like their private diary, tell them that nothing is private online--including their blog.)



Comments

I just visited a friend's blog on myspace.com and was happy

to see that the introductory page for each person has had the info about sexual orientation removed. Maybe they will soon work on the revealing pictures, but I guess we shouldn't expect too much.

Jeanne Gibson

it's not so much the social networks...

...as it is the information circulated on them. i'm a member of several and do not use my name on any of them. to me the danger in these sites are the memes that are passed around and around. questions that appear totally innocent reveal information: what do you see when you look out your window in the morning? do you have curtains or drapes? do you walk or drive? what kind of do you drive? the questions see unrevealing but over time (and several memes) you will reveal enough info about yourself for a patient person to put together you school (or work), where your bedroom is located and a rough idea of when you are home and when you aren't.

Gremlins live in Xomba

Next time you see Xomba going slow or down it is probably because of Gremlins. Little buggers.

I especially enjoyed your last comment and the picture, Nick.

Is that one of your children, or just a friend who was sleeping over?

Jeanne Gibson

Amazon?

Hey, I had that idea too to add Amazon to my book reviews on www.xomba. I even applied at the Amazon website, months ago, and never heard back from them, not a yes, nor a no. How did you get the Amazon code on Xomba? If you willing to share the information, I would appreciate it. Oh, by the way I agree with you. Children, and some adults are sharing way too much information on-line!

Ughh

Parents should not let their kids use the internet unsupervised. Keep the computer in a family room. Don't let your kids talk to strangers online. And never... never... no matter how much they cry or how much they beg ever feed them after midnight...

Thanks, Mark. I was prodded to write it when I noticed some

members of my own extended family sharing their intermost secrets with the world.

Jeanne Gibson

I agree...

Nice article...+1

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