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WHY DO WOMEN LIE ?

posted July 22, 2008 - 5:46pm
WHY DO WOMEN LIE ?

Why do women lie? Do they think men are just stupid and we will never catch them? Or are they so confident in their superiority, that they feel even if they are caught, or when they are caught, it won’t matter because either a) they can lie there way out of it. Or b) they can apologize in person while at the same time using their sexual prowess to make us forget the past in light of the apparent and promising near future?

An example of this would be a good friend of mine er.. uh Ok lets just say for lack of a better example me. I have been very close friends with a girl for three years now. During this time I have been told by her “you’re everything I want in a man/soul mate/ father figure/ lover/ etc…’. I have told her some of the same things except I told her about my family’s mission statement.

This is a statement that defines who we are as a family and also what our goals are for our family and as individuals. She engages in certain life choices that are unacceptable to our family. So I have told her I have mutual feelings but until she decides to stop the behavior we do not accept then we can’t go any further.

She agrees that her behavior is destructive and is supposed to be changing that part of her life as we speak. However, in the mean time and not just recently but over the past three years she has told me I am her soul mate yet has also lied to me about other men she has seen. Lied to me about things like I miss you so much and then come to town and spent the weekend with a girlfriend and left with out ever calling.

Most recently said she missed me terribly and was coming to town soon. Normally that would mean staying with me. Then later that day a mutual friend asked me to have lunch. When I picked up this Girl she says “guess who called me this a.m.?” I said I know my best friend/ girlfriend she told me she called you. The other girl says yea “She’s coming to town next week and asked if she could stay with me and my brother for a few days”

This is where I finally decided I was tired of all the game playing, lies and being taken for a fool. She has to know I am going to hear this. My question is WHY? Why do you keep telling a man you love him and he is everything you want if it is not true? Do you just enjoy causing pain in the hearts of men? What is the point? Do you think we will never learn or that your actions will not eventually give you away? Or am I the only man that has ever encountered this?

I told her that I was sick of the game playing and her deceitfulness and not to call me any more unless she could be honest and stop playing games. I also made her aware of several lies I have known about but have not mentioned because I was waiting to see if she would ever come clean.

I haven’t heard from her since. It has been very difficult for me as she has for three years been my very best friend. Yet if I am going to hold to my own beliefs and my own advice “don’t compromise” then I have to move ahead and realize I am wasting my time. Unless someone can convince me she has a legitimate reason for lying? Why do women lie?



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Why people lie

People lie when they are out of touch with themselves and busy running from inner problems.

They can not tell the truth because half the time they don't even know what that really is to them or anyone else anyway... And the other half of the time when they lie it's because they are trying to avoid more pain... Because they are already in too much pain inside to begin with.

Here is your answer.

SHE IS A LOST SOUL

MOVE ON.

  1. She is not in touch with herself
  2. She is not in touch with her feelings
  3. She is out of touch.
  4. That is why it is so strange.
  5. That is why on one hand she thinks she loves you but she doesn't really feel the full depth of love so she can easily betray you because she already betrays herself on so many levels.
  6. Great gal in many ways I am sure. But some of the most lost souls in this world are quite capable of convincing even themselves that they are "ok" when they really are not.
  7. She needs help. Yes you could help her, but it would cost you an entire lifetime of happiness in doing so. Leave it to the professionals who get paid to do this sort of thing, and go find your dream woman that you deserve.
  8. Also ask yourself why you would have hung on for so long to someone AT THIS STAGE IN YOUR LIFE that is this dishonest to you? How is your self esteem doing? CHECK YOURSELF. Improve on that. DO NOT compromise THIS MUCH next time, and you will be golden. 
  9. Take this as a lesson learned. Look at the time you spent doing this when it could have been with your dream girl? That's ok, you got something very valuable out of it this time if you learned from it. BUT NOT AGAIN.

SHE IS A LOST SOUL

MOVE ON.

Hmmm... and I ask, Why do men lie?

I know that my choices have put me where I am today and I am trying to rectify that. I know that I cannot change someone else, but I can change me. He told me his marriage is over, he is getting a divorce, they don't even live close enough to each other to see each other, but it has been 6 years andhe is still married! Why do men lie? I am a controversy. MJ

Fair Enough

I have a healthy respect for the Law of Attraction based on my own experience in dealing with women and dating. Once I understood the simple truth, I no longer attracted women who vibrated at those lower frequencies. To each his own... JOIN XOMBA IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO ADD!

Jdubhub Hmm.. I didnt intend to get that deep...

Just making an observation, based on what I see around me, plus some personal experience. Women can be and are dishonest.. its my choice not to go there now lets live with it!

why would you want her

AAT2> yeah, embroidering the truth is just part of myth making... or is that very british!? It doesn't have to be a lie, just slightly baroque embellishments. A mission statement? lmfao. Anyway, who cares? Just think about it; if she doesn't want you why would you want her? sorry, re-read this contorted post again and have changed my mind... if you don't want her why would she want you? That makes much more sense now :-) Money for your Thoughts - join now OWO-HP

Some Women and Some Men, unlike George Washington, tell Porkies

I'm less a liar, more an embroiderer or improver of the truth. In mitigation, I admit to it - indeed I'm proud of it too. I don't know you well enough, nor your friend, to judge right and wrong. If I did I'd be asking just exactly where do you get off pronouncing to the world that this woman is a liar? Did you read your family's mission statement to her on your first date? Isn't that a tad weird Bud? Could you enlighten us more on your family's mission statement please? Is it an American thing?

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Broad generalization or Generalization about broads?

The Law of Attraction can be your best friend or worst enemy. From your reply, Time to WAKEUP, I can see that it is the latter. If you expect people to lie, cheat, and swindle you, of course you are going to attract people who lie, cheat, and swindle you. Do you know what's the worst part? YOU asked for it. Because YOU asked for it, you cannot complain that that's how "all" women are. If you want to change the types of women you attract into your life, you need to change your paradigm where it comes to women. EXPECT women to be truthful and honest and you will ATTRACT women who are truthful and honest. Or, you could just continue down this path and find yourself alone and unhappy. JOIN XOMBA IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO ADD!

WHY DO WOMEN LIE? Answer: Coz they are women?

I really believe that women love lying, or maybe they are addicted to it.. it must make them feel good as from what I hear they all seem to do it a heck of a lot. Maybe they have some kind of anti-honesty gene? I don't think I have ever met a completely honest woman. It's just not in them.

I had one of those recently

I was 31 she was 25. She had a kid by someone else(child support) and told me she was in the process of leaving this other guy(sugardaddy). Now I am not the kind of guy who is ok with this but she sold me a bag of tricks. See I was under the impression she was in a volitile situation which was going to get her killed. The first date I had with her I almost gotmy block knocked off by some thug she enticed at a club. I had to pry this animal off of her. It wasn't until later I realized it was a setup. Let me count the ways of this freaks treachery. First, She claimed her boyfriend threw pills at her Second, he called her a "cunt". Now, I never knew a woman to tolerate such but the problem was she did. She used me to make him jealous. I could have been killed. Instead it's only a matter of time till she gets her current boyfriend killed. In whichcase, she'll sit back and say: "I don't know what happened?."LOL. Women are selfish and immature creatures that care nothing about a mans feelings! They say all a man wants is sex right? Guess what... Thats all women are capable of giving. Lets face it, half they time they can't even do that right because they are lazy and vindictive. We promote such behavior by tolerating their lies. I say to you brothers. Never tolerate a woman who lies. If she wants to get revenge by cheating. Let the bitch leave. Always keep your options open and never put your eggs in one basket. No matter what they say. Your a man,don't feel guilty for being one.

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