Why do women lie? Do they think men are just stupid and we will never catch them? Or are they so confident in their superiority, that they feel even if they are caught, or when they are caught, it won’t matter because either a) they can lie there way out of it. Or b) they can apologize in person while at the same time using their sexual prowess to make us forget the past in light of the apparent and promising near future?

An example of this would be a good friend of mine er.. uh Ok lets just say for lack of a better example me. I have been very close friends with a girl for three years now. During this time I have been told by her “you’re everything I want in a man/soul mate/ father figure/ lover/ etc…’. I have told her some of the same things except I told her about my family’s mission statement.

This is a statement that defines who we are as a family and also what our goals are for our family and as individuals. She engages in certain life choices that are unacceptable to our family. So I have told her I have mutual feelings but until she decides to stop the behavior we do not accept then we can’t go any further.

She agrees that her behavior is destructive and is supposed to be changing that part of her life as we speak. However, in the mean time and not just recently but over the past three years she has told me I am her soul mate yet has also lied to me about other men she has seen. Lied to me about things like I miss you so much and then come to town and spent the weekend with a girlfriend and left with out ever calling.

Most recently said she missed me terribly and was coming to town soon. Normally that would mean staying with me. Then later that day a mutual friend asked me to have lunch. When I picked up this Girl she says “guess who called me this a.m.?” I said I know my best friend/ girlfriend she told me she called you. The other girl says yea “She’s coming to town next week and asked if she could stay with me and my brother for a few days”

This is where I finally decided I was tired of all the game playing, lies and being taken for a fool. She has to know I am going to hear this. My question is WHY? Why do you keep telling a man you love him and he is everything you want if it is not true? Do you just enjoy causing pain in the hearts of men? What is the point? Do you think we will never learn or that your actions will not eventually give you away? Or am I the only man that has ever encountered this?

I told her that I was sick of the game playing and her deceitfulness and not to call me any more unless she could be honest and stop playing games. I also made her aware of several lies I have known about but have not mentioned because I was waiting to see if she would ever come clean.

I haven’t heard from her since. It has been very difficult for me as she has for three years been my very best friend. Yet if I am going to hold to my own beliefs and my own advice “don’t compromise” then I have to move ahead and realize I am wasting my time. Unless someone can convince me she has a legitimate reason for lying? Why do women lie?