Why You Don’t Have To Daydream
By Ugo Okeke
So you also believe some people are born with golden spoon in their mouth? Yes that’s true. But believe you me, there are people born with the added grace of having a servant lifting the golden spoon to their mouth. Living in the lap of luxury one may say. Such easy life! Yes that’s what life should be for all of us. Please don’t follow my tinted line of thinking. That might be misleading and could get you frustrated and angry with your parents for making you a low born. Some one might get so angry he/she would start throwing tantrums and obscenities to the Establishment. Hello! I did not say anything Aso-something.
So it’s true you spend your time brooding over how unfortunate you are being born a Nigerian? Nothing works here! People have always gushed in frustration. You spend precious time thinking how you were supposed to be born with the silver…oophs...golden spoon? Now, that is wasteful and dangerous. This is so because no amount of wishful thinking and daydreaming will make you an icon or a legend. Or have you heard of any award instituted for daydreaming in this nation or anywhere for that matter?
I’ll tell you what comes out of the practice of daydreaming so that if you’re culpable you’ll do me a favour and have a rethink and retrace. You may not believe this but daydreaming leaves you permanently frustrated. How? Now look at those entrenched lines on your forehead. A daydreamer knows quite well that his health is slipping him by. What with the heavy burden weighing heavily on his mind?
There are permanent features of daydreamers. They always remain downcast, look sickly, ready to quarrel and even become a willing tool in the devil’s busy workshop when those fantasies refuse to materialize. Nothing ever pleases them. Everything is gloomy. They see only the negative side of every supposedly good thing. They are envious and try to reap where they never ploughed. Nobody’s success means a light on the horizon to them.
Now you wouldn’t wish to fit into this character whose tell-tale signs are these but not limited to permanent lines of frustration on a withering facial skin, a distant look in the eye, irritability, low self esteem and absence of mental sagacity.
Daydreamers have the tendency to be killjoy to the happy and prosperous who don’t waste time daydreaming. A daydreamer is tactless and spews forth from his mouth venom. Heaven help other road users when he happens behind the steering. He is ready to give the term public nuisance worse names. The other day while going to work I stumbled on a driver who wasted his spleen after he had physically assaulted a gentleman for brushing his boss’ car. He was so frustrated and mad with his boss that most of his caustic tirades on the unfortunate guy were actually meant for his boss.
Daydreamers! Nothing on earth will make him believe there’ll be sunshine after the haze of the early morning. Everything will be subjected to ridiculous twists that tell the world he is a frustrated and wasting soul. The soul of a daydreamer! None takes him serious because his character projection is queer, abnormal or weird. All that comes out of his mouth is incoherent and lacks fluidity and common sense.
Daydreamers are easily seen as vain and loud. All their achievements are hanging in the air. No serious effort is made to get anything on ground.
Another thing daydreaming will do to you is getting you trapped inside. The real you is busy engaging mental strength daydreaming. You keep wishing for the best in life without first giving yourself a break by coming out. You can stand up now and shout… “I’m coming out! I want the world to know and I’ve got to let it show!”
Do this and you’ll see your countenance brighten and that load of emptiness around you will dissipate that is if you do away with pride. Pride you know is the exclusive preserve of daydreamers. For the chick to come out of the shell, it’ll first have to break out of the shell before the elements dry it up.
Another thing you’ll observe about yourself is a complete departure from your former ways of seeing, saying and doing things. You’ll become more objective and clear-headed. The permanent gloom will go away. You know this thing about daydreaming takes refuge inside. If you stand up, you’ll be counted. Golden spoon or not you’ll not leave the stage unsung. Don’t you know that in the absence of golden and silver spoons there is wooden spoon? Okay, come to think of it, don’t you have your hands (your God-given talents) When you wash them you’re ready to eat out of the provision on your dining table.
Cheer up. Going out there to seek means of livelihood means you’ve got a golden spoon in your hands. Depending on how industrious and lucky you are, you’ll become clothed in majestic attires. Now I believe golden spoon translates to sustenance from God whose responsibility it is to provide your wherewithal. See it this way and you are my friend.
On the other hand, golden spoon could well mean being healthy, alive and engaged in purposeful means of livelihood that will benefit all. Cheers!