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by Raenel Breucop, The Conservative Advocate

Straight Talk in the Gay Community

All Together Now!

Last year I really made an effort to participate in the gay community. I attended a luncheon about the time Gay Pride festivities were starting up in our city. A notable individual was the guest speaker and the founder of the Gay Pride movement here locally . In a restaurant full of professionals and business owners this person's story was chock full of sexual innuendos that led to how Gay Pride came into existence in our city. The luncheon ended with an audience member requesting the phone number off the bathroom wall the speaker eluded to in his story. You've got to be kidding me...

I've never marched in gay parades. Personally, my take is this: when heterosexuals decide to have a parade celebrating what they do behind closed doors, then maybe I'll consider romping the streets in a gay parade, then again maybe not.

It's neither right nor wrong - gay parades, they're just parades. It's all about why we do what we do. Why do I need to be in Gay Pride Parade? If we are 'out and proud' while our actions alienate others, causing others to keep their distance, we may be ignoring deep-seated pain, just pretending to go on our merry, gay way while inside we are suffering.

If I can shock you enough that you leave me alone, my pain, my guilt, the rejection I've grown so accustomed to stays at a constant level that I'm used to. I protect myself by repelling you so you cannot add to my pain. How do I know that? Because I'm gay and have been a very long time. Through years of depression, attempted suicide, drugs, alcohol, sex addiction, near death then sterility, add a nervous breakdown in bed for six months. Being an evangelist, preaching against homosexuality, experiencing miraculous healing, being married and divorced twice, having a child and then falling in love with a woman-tell me God doesn't have a sense of humor.. I've done it all.

So now, if I can pull the chain that turns your light on to help you be free, then I'm all over it.

All that matters is what you think and feel about you. Forget what other people say. And no matter how hard you try, you don't know what they think. It's so important that you feel good about you. Check in with your Self on a regular basis and make sure that you're really okay being gay. Then if you need to talk, I'm here for you.

We must make every effort to bring us all together-every last one of us. We really are not different, we are one. Regardless of race, religion, creed, gender, sexual preference, abilities and disabilities, inside we are all the same. You do realize that your body is just a spirit container, don't you? Only Western philosophy refers to male and female gender as separate entities. Think about this; what is your spirit going to be in when this container is emptied? Your spirit - the breath of life, the Real You, is eternal. "You are not breathing, you are being breathed."

We are all slices of the same pie set on different plates.

So, who are you? Is what you call yourself or want to be called who you are? I choose to be called an inspirational mentor, a writer, speaker. or coach rather than a gay this or that. Let's be mature enough to stop using labels that indicate what we do behind bedroom doors. Be mindful that labels are mostly opinions, different from titles. Opinions stir your emotions then you struggle to get that chatterbox in your head to shut up. The goal is peace.

Let's be kind to one another to prevent any person from being separate from us. Love your neighbor as yourself is a huge clue. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. It begins with loving you and it will end with loving you.

Infinite Intelligence, the Universal Mind loves us so much that we say His/Her/God/ Spirit's name before our own. Where ever you are, whenever any of us meet someone new. We say, "I Am _________". I Am - the sacred name of God. Say that right now, say I Am then 'your name'. Now take a deep breath. What a beautiful thing.

I love this quote from Yogiraj, "Humanity is our only religion, breath our only prayer and consciousness our only God."

Did you know that Universe means "One Song"? Each of us are just different verses of One Song. Can't you hear the Great Maestro tapping His music stand, lifting His baton and saying, "All Together Now!"

It's all about gifting and receiving.
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By Raenel Breucop, The Conservative Advocate

Parents Parenting On Purpose

Want perfect kids? You first!

The next time you get mad at Junior because he spilled milk all over the kitchen table, ask yourself "Did he really do it on purpose?" That's the $65,000 question that will pay you over and over again. Why? Because regardless of how many times this has happened before, by taking time to consider your actions instead of reacting, that's when you are parenting on purpose.

YOUR REACTION GIVES YOUR CHILD THE POWER!

...because, although this time it may have been an accident, the next time Junior wants attention, he will know how to get it.

Remain calm. Tell him "I remember when I spilled my milk..." Take this opportunity to allow the situation to "just be" and give your child the gift of setting an example in what could be a monumental crisis in his mind. "Let's clean it up together, buddy. I will help you and you can help me."

Remember, Junior is always watching and waiting to see what you will do, that's how he learns what to do, pretty scary stuff, huh? What life lessons can you both learn from this one situation? Here are just a few...

You set an example by not reacting and remaining calm

You have spilled milk before - it was an accident, not the end of the world

You are teaching Junior how to help someone and himself in what could be a time of crisis

You are teaching Junior how to clean up spills for the next time (there will be a next time!)

You have allowed Junior to be a human being just like you, not perfect

You are teaching Junior to remain calm in the face of a potential crisis

Your actions show him that your love continues in spite of his mistake

Consider these valid points. These moments are the building blocks of the foundation of your child's character. This foundation determines who your child will be, so recognize the worth of this simple 'accident'.

This type of parenting yields children who come to you when they are afraid, who confide in you when they have done something wrong, or if they are ashamed, or in trouble, instead of a child who lies, hides and keeps secrets from you.

Mistakes, accidents, they are both life lessons, experiences we all have so we know which way we should go, what we should do. That's the way it is for us all, that's life. So really understand this message and create a safe place for your child to make mistakes, to be human, to be like you. They will grow up to be confident, fearless and trustworthy throughout their lives. They will be the examples to follow. How much is that worth? It could begin with a simple glass of spilled milk. Now you are parenting on purpose!

One additional note: Often times stress related anxieties due to our present financial situation causes us to react instead of act, and our children are usually the target. Take responsibility, become self-reliant, self-sufficient. If you do what everyone else always does you'll get what they have. It's human nature to want more, life is more, always. So have a little faith, do something out of the norm and find support to help you help yourself. Your courage and faith will go a long way in creating a great example for those you care about, especially your children.

For years I struggled with understanding why my financial situation was, well...less than desirable. Until I came across a wonderful little book by Deepak Chopra called, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. I’ve read that book from cover to cover at least 3 times a week, and minimum one chapter every day since October 10, 2006.

Years ago, as an evangelist women’s counselor and pastor I traveled across the country and Philippines. But my religion didn’t help much when it came to manifesting my dreams and heart's desires. It's only been in the last five years, out of desparation to find peace of mind, that I began be still, listen and desire understanding. Only then did I begin to see what Deepak was saying.

At first, the little book was like reading Greek, then I rapidly could tell I was changing - from the inside out. Sychronicity was beginning in my life. A series of amazing events brought me to a 3 day seminar with some of the most powerful people I've ever met. Mark Victor Hansen, Roger Hamilton, Bill Bartmann and many others... They spoke about the Universe, abundance is within, and manifesting your dreams.

That first night I dreamt that I spoke to Bill Bartmann and John Alexandroff about why my business was failing. I had 2 concise sentences prepared to ask them because I didn’t want to waste their time.

I knew the next morning there would be no way to speak with them because they’d probably have teams of people just like me wanting their attention. But, when I arrived, only two people were in the room, John and Bill. I was shaking in my boots. This was a miracle. I was so scared I thought I’d get sick, but I marched up and told them my dream and asked my questions.

Bill Bartmann told me point blank, and John Alexandroff agreed, "You reak of fear! That’s why you’re not seeing success! You have to love and trust yourself before you can manifest abundance from the inside. Work on your self-esteem first." Fear was blocking my abundance and I had fear as a result of my low self-esteem. In all my years of ministry service I never heard that truth.

’When the student is ready, the teacher appears.’ He was the teacher and I was ready.

I was shaking, Bill put his arm around me. I vowed that whatever it took to be free of fear and learn to love myself then I would do it. That day I sat in traffic on my way home. I looked up and saw a billboard for a local bank that said, "Think outside the vault." I realized that my low self-esteem and self-worth was preventing me from everything in the Universe. That life itself is abundance - that we might have life, and more abundantly.... I looked in the mirror and said, "You are the only one who knows what you need. I promise I will love and care for you, take care and be kind of you the rest of my life. I am sorry I've hated and fought you all these years. Please forgive me-let's start again."

Today, I live without fear. Life is magical, I manifest more abundance than I’ve ever imagined in my life. I am dedicated to help others do the same. I know what I ask for is already given.

I live in constant gratitude, so much that I’m often brought to my knees in humility because of God’s lovingkindness. I am content to allow life to unfold before me. What can I do to express my gratitude? Serve humanity with all the wisdom, understanding and lovingkindness that has been given to me.

I am an inspirational coach, writer and speaker. I live in Las Vegas, NV and do marketing/pr for non-profits. I am an advisor to leaders of non-profits. Last year, a local company donated $50k of air time for one of the leading authorities in pediatric HIV/AIDS on which we appeared for a special program about the pediatric HIV/AIDS crisis in America. This is only the beginning...

My program is geared to generate funds for non-profits like the pediatric HIV/AIDS children, children with disabilities and special needs. The program generates a ton of funds for the non-profits and those who run the business of non-profits. It’s working...

It hasn’t been easy touching the pain to understand my Self, but it was a small price to pay to live a life free of fear, anxiety, and dread.

I love what Yogiraj says, "Let Humanity be our only religion, Breath our only prayer, and Consciousness our only God."

How can I help, instead of what's in it for me?