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You are being lied to

posted December 29, 2008 - 5:54pm
You are being lied to

If you are in school, you probably hear this a lot. If you are
out of school, you probably remember hearing it all the time too.
"Work hard, study hard, and get good grades, so you can get into
a good college and get a good job." But how does this actually
work in the real world?

It's a lie. Getting into a good college depends more on having
money and family connections than on intelligence, academic
ability, good grades and SAT scores. I graduated at the top of
my class in high school, but because of lack of money and having
family responsibilities (helping my widowed mother), I could only
go to a local community college. To the elitists, community college
is the 13th grade, a high school with ashtrays, a place for dummies
who couldn't get into a good school. Why the latter, "place for dummies"
connotation? Because everybody believes the lie, that there is equal
opportunity in America. When in fact we have a caste system. Even
the attempts to level the playing field result in perpetuation of
the caste system. The community and state colleges were ostensibly
created to make college affordable for lower income students having
academic ability. But they are scorned by the elitists who could
attend the "real," private institutions. Even with the supposedly
level playing field, some of us are always more equal than others.

And how about getting a good job? Surely hard work, ability, and
knowledge have merit there? More lies. There is an old saying,
"It's not what you know, it's who you know." You don't hear
that exact sentence too much anymore, because it's been gussied up
with the buzzword "networking." Which means the same thing. If
the teachers and educrats were honest, instead of saying "Study
hard," they would say "Party hearty," so you can develop those
all-so-important social connections that you can parlay into employment.
In fact, the students taking the advice to "Study hard" will be at
a disadvantage, since they will be hitting the books, nose to the
grindstone, with no time to socialize.

Do we even have any good jobs available anymore? I know someone
with a master's degree in psychology who is working in retail. Yes,
it's an upper level position, but it's still retail, not cutting
edge psychological research. And there is an old joke about what
one Ph.D in astronomy says to another: "Would you like fries with that?"

It may sound like I'm being anti-intellectual here, but that is not
my intention. I personally enjoy reading and learning. I believe
that knowledge, like virtue, should be its own reward. And in some
situations, knowledge is power. But not as often as money is power
and power is power. The greatest anti-intellectual force in America
is the general system that rewards ignorance, dishonesty and apathy
and punishes their opposites.

Seeing the hypocrisy of the for-profit "real world" at an early age,
I gravitated to the non-profit sector. You know, the good guys,
trying to make the world a better place, people who aren't in it
for the money. Boy, was I wrong. More lies and liars, hypocrites
and frauds. Meet the new boss, same as the old boss. The same
prejudices and stupidity abound in the non-profit realm.

For example, many of the activists I worked with were products of
the 1960s, when youth was where it's at, when they said "Don't trust
anyone over 30." But they had contempt for me because I was a few
years younger than they were. What happened to all that peace, love,
freedom and equality stuff they were spouting? I guess it was only
for them, not for anybody else.

Most of the do-gooders I encountered were liberals who claimed to
care so much for the poor and disdvantaged. They scorned me, with
my 13th grade, "high school with ashtrays" community college (formal,
on-paper) education. Why can't activists who are trying to fight
poverty realize that there are intelligent, studious people who don't
end up at the Ivy League because they can't afford it? Who is the
bigger fraud, the conservative who publically says "If you're so smart, why
aren't you rich?" or the liberal who privately appears to believe the same
thing?

This one liberal I encountered was a real trip. He went to Yale,
even though he only got Cs in high school. Somebody pulled strings
to get him in on an athletic scholarship. Based purely on academic
achievement, I should have been at Yale and he would have gone to
13th grade. But even though he got into the Ivy League through
undemocratic, nonmeritorious means, he would fawn over anybody who
went to Harvard or Yale as "heavyweights," while regarding me as
someone slightly above retarded. And no, this isn't jealousy talking,
it's just disgust with the hypocrisy and lies.

In the non-profit world, one hopes to get funding from foundations.
And this is another world filled with lies, fraud, and hypocrisy.
The foundations love to promote themselves as objective bodies that
carefully evaluate the funding proposals they receive, based solely
on merit. More lies, more prejudice.

Just like the liberals, the foundations also fawn over people
with Ivy League credentials and scorn those without them, even
if the latter are actually making a difference. They also tend
to fund groups that already have lots of money. The "who you know"
game operates in full force as well. Plus, there is
a geographical bias. Most of the big foundations are either in
the Boston-Washington corridor or in California. Everything
in between the coasts is considered fly-over land, meaning,
Dogpatch. Just like in real estate, it's location that's key;
location plays a big role in what groups get funded. Hint:
Dogpatch loses out to the DC beltway. Unless they find someone
in fly-over land who is willing to serve as their useful idiot puppet.

Case in point: a certain environmental prize. In
the 1990s this prize, $75,000, went to an individual who chained herself
to a desk at a midwest state EPA. Another example of the system rewarding
an anti-intellectual approach.

I've given up trying to understand why the system works the way it
does. All I know is that an awful lot of people, corporations, and
institutions seem to have a vested interest in keeping the public ignorant
and pacified with bread and circuses. And that most of the things
the powers that be tell you are so important are not, in the grand
scheme of things, and most of what we are told is lies.



Comments

@Dr. rawnak--I KNOW You're Kidding in the Last Half, but JIC ...

... I'll see if I can interpret what you meant. You meant, "It's really cool how we can be honest about how things work; we might even start teaching our children 'the darker side' (the lying, cheating, stealing, etc.) if we make sure we teach them to have only Good Intentions!" Of course, I'm sure someone would there remind us what "the road to hell" is paved with, so I would suggest parents give there children not only Good Intentions, but also Good Reactions (the material that turns intentions' black-top into friendly sidewalk leading to the Stairway). ---Uncle MythMan of the Professional Friends who GET MONEY for Echoing the Universe (the Wonderful World Above & the Beauty Amidst)

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Great article

enjoyed reading it because they mirrored my thoughts exactly on the issue. I also enjoyed reading the very rich comments on this topic. This has become a global phenomenon and a way of life. Therefore, we need to rethink about the moral values that we should be teaching to our children. The old values are all defunct by now and have no place in today's society or world! Therefore, teach your child to lie, steal, be deceptive, cunning and a sycophant if you want him/her to succeed at anything at all!

@tinatango--"Rich" is a State-of-Mind

I remember when I was young and when one of my favorite things to do was to look through toy-catalogs for things to ask Santa Claus for ... when money was something the big people had (because they were good wherever they went out to play). But growing up and learning about this money-stuff (that there was some sort of limit on how much money you could get, no matter HOW GOOD you are) led to a persistent poverty mentality (instead of 'I can't get this toy because I'm busy getting so many other things,' it became 'I can't get this toy because I "am not good enough" [i.e. don't get paid enough]). That's the bad thing about goal-setting: it's like a bandage promising it'll heal you, so you're tempted to 'peel off the bandage' to see if your goal has been met yet (wastes time if you do it when you could be preparing for better work). ---Uncle MythMan of the Professional Friends who GET MONEY for Echoing the Universe (the Wonderful World Above & the Beauty Amidst)

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@MJ Dakota--About the Things You Cannot Change

There's power in know how you would if you could. ---Uncle MythMan of the Professional Friends who GET MONEY for Echoing the Universe (the Wonderful World Above & the Beauty Amidst)

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@Myth...Serenity comes to mind

For some reason, the Serenity Prayer came to mind when I read your comment. Maybe because I equate that with choosing battles. If I know a battle cannot be won because of something that cannot be changed, I walk away. A test is like a battle. I have only walked away from one...calculas. I just don't get it!! Eeeerrr.... "God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the knowledge to know the difference." I dare ya...c'mon you know you want to...Smile! MJ

So true Jdub

I have concluded recently that I do not need the piece of paper stating an accomplishment. When I started college I was 36, fresh out of a 12 year relationship, 2 kids, no job, no child support, living on welfare. For me, it was important at that time to start living again. I took psychology 101, interpersonal communications, a sociology class covering the media and its affect on society, English and a PE class. All of these classes were requirements, but as I went along, they were exactly what I needed at that time. The research papers and classwork were so therapeutic for me. PE was also a great mental and physical boost. Heh! I was the oldest in that class and scored the most improved...the best part, I was alive! I felt great about me. I guess, now that I have completed all my required classes for a degree and need to decide on the degree classes, I do not know what to take. Kind of like my need for the "higher learning" has already been accomplished. At least in that type of setting. Now I learn on my own with wonderful people I found here. ; ) Some would say, "God works in mysterious ways", I say, "Thank you!" I dare ya...c'mon you know you want to...Smile! MJ

Measuring yourself against your goals vs. others

The surest way to feel badly about what you have and have accomplished is to compare yourself to another person, since it is rare that you will compare yourself with a positive outcome. The only comparison that any of us should be making in this life is what we've accomplished against the goals we've made. The reason I believe that way is because each of us came down here to accomplish something specific and to learn particular lessons during our lifetime. If my end goals are not the same as your end goals, then it would only make sense that we are going to travel different paths with different waypoints. Too many belief systems would have us focus outwardly when the real challenges to our lives occur from within. By making what we are inside the focus of our time and energy, we are not only making ourselves better people, we are making the world a better place because you cannot have scarcity, hate, and blatant disregard for the sanctity of life when you are in a state of grace. How many of the problems we now see in the world today would be there if each person and country would first deal with their own problems before looking at their neighbor and pointing fingers? Many of the most important lessons we have in this life will not be found in a textbook in a government institutional learning facility. Those lessons can only be learned by living life according to the goals we set, making mistakes, and learning from those mistakes. If we approach life with a solid understanding of goals and learning life lessons, we will understand that life from birth to death is its own school. We don't need a piece of paper hanging on the wall to say that we are done learning. JOIN US IN TOASTING YOUR FUTURE SUCCESS!

@MJD-jdh--In Life, the Tests Are 2-Fold-'Start/Skip' 'Pass/Fail'

The tests in life are the gauntlets laid before you (some between you and your goals, some 'because they're there'). You come to a test, and the general question at first glance is, "Is the goal of this gauntlet worth failing for?' If the answer's no, you pass (just without the reward of success); if yes, then you start to take the test. And then the only way to fail is to want a reward for trying. ---Uncle MythMan of the Professional Friends who GET MONEY for Echoing the Universe (the Wonderful World Above & the Beauty Amidst)

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I myself graduated top of my

I myself graduated top of my class and received a full scholarship to college (2 years to community and 2 years to university). However I turned it down. Why? Because community college does NOT offer a job to help support myself through college. Best bet for me was the military (plus it's pretty cool) But I do agree with your article, funny I was actually talking with one of my friends earlier and we came up with the conclusion - "Born rich, stay rich." .. but, hey .. life is what you make it...

Saracens, I think had it right

I like that belief! If I could go to school without having to go into debt financially, I think I would be a career student. As for tests, I'm one of those people whose mind goes into "duh mode" at the sight of a test on my desk. I would probably fail within a month! I am also one of those people who strives for that "A" on all my projects and tests. Makes for a stressful experience, yet I enjoy the learning. Even though I stress, the pleasure of learning is so much greater than the stress that I kind of welcome the challenge of overcoming it. I dare ya...c'mon you know you want to...Smile! MJ

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